"Endorsing the importance and beauty of sexuality while acknowledging the limitations of one's own personal experiences with it."
"For me, being sex positive isn’t about what I do sexually, it’s about respecting others’ rights to do what they want to do. It’s not about being open to do anything or everything. You can be sex positive and asexual or celibate. You can be a kinky poly sex fanatic and not be sex positive."
-Mona Darling, Darlingpropaganda.com
"To me being sex positive means embracing your sexuality/sexual orientation/sexual identity and that of others without judgement. It means being open, accepting and understanding of the way others choose to live their sexual lives even when it doesn't mirror the way you live your own."
"To accept others exactly as they are, sexually, with no judgment, ridicule or discrimination … that is sex-positive. That involves letting go of preconceived notions of conformity, religious dogma and so many 'shoulds’ that are present in society today. Acceptance and lack of judgment are powerful tools in the quest for a sex-positive world. They are building blocks that will help to erase shame from the sexual conversation."
-Ruby Ryder, PeggingParadise.com
"For me, being sex positive means accepting and embracing sexuality as an important part of who we are, regardless of age, gender, race, sexual orientation, or otherwise. It means maintaining a non-judgmental attitude toward sex, others people's choices/decisions, and actively choosing to engage in activities that are consensual and healthy for everyone involved. It’s about respecting the decisions and perspectives a person may have, while also educating them so that they feel comfortable within their bodies and as sexual beings. It’s about encouraging love-based decisions rather than fear-based ones."
-Kara Sutra, KaraSutraReviews.com
"Sex-positivity is an evolving, morphing concept (and social movement in many cases) where people are trying to destigmatize sexual desires, activities and proclivities. Being sex-positive doesn’t mean you have to be kinky, wild or have loads of sex (many asexual people identify as sex-positive), but it often means that you talk a lot about sex and the important social, emotional and physical effects this act can have on you personally and society as a whole. There is no one way to be "sex-positive" but all ways emphasize the importance of consent, respect for others, and open, honest communication."
-Queerie Bradshaw, QueerieBradshaw.com
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