My partner asked me to peg him. So, now what?
Besides having to figure out how to do it, I have to wrap my head around the idea. Even nuts and bolts have parts referred to as female and male because of which part customarily penetrates the other. And now I'm going to penetrate my man.
Fortunately, I’m all for sexual fantasies, and have acted out more than a few. I have a few more I can’t wait to try, pegging wasn’t on my list. But, evidently, it's at the top of his, so I'm game to give it a go.
My Biggest Fear
My biggest fear? Hurting him. I know it took me what seems like years for me to love anal sex. I don’t want to ruin his fantasy expectations by injuring his cute little butt hole. Fear No.2? That he’ll see me differently. I am secure being the dainty female in our relationship and I want to continue to be perceived that way. Oh, and one last fear – that I will like pegging him and want to do it all the time. Come to think of it, maybe that's his fear too. (Read more in Butt Play: Your Ifs, Ands and ... Buts .)
Starting My Research
Since love conquers all, I found myself researching harnesses and strap-on dongs. I have worn a harness and a huge 10-inch dong in the past. It's a long story, but I wanted to see what it would feel like to have a penis. While that previous experience was fun, I hadn’t actually thought about impaling anyone with it.
Lucky for me, Doc Johnson makes the world’s first and only patented interchangeable harness system, Vac-U-Lock. The interchangeable part is important to me because if he ends up not caring for pegging, there are several other attachments that I can use with this harness – even a double penetrator so I can cross “Try DP” off of my sexual bucket list.
I chose the Vac-U-Lock Edition Supreme Harness for myself because of the cushioned back support strap. This harness feels secure. The straps are entirely adjustable so he and I can both wear it. It also came with three different sized O-Rings so that I can use this harness with other dongs or dildos, even if they aren’t Vac-U-Lock compatible.
Choosing a Dong for Pegging
Next, it's time to choose the penetrating weapon of my choice. OK, OK, I shouldn’t refer to it as a weapon. I’m not quite over my fear of hurting him, but choosing the right dong will help alleviate this concern. I looked at a few options, but I settled on the best material you can get: platinum silicone. I found it in the Platinum TRU TOUCH. Besides being made of pure platinum silicone, it has a slim, modern shape and doesn’t look like an angry penis (you know what I mean, wink, wink). Plus, it’s made in America and that’s important to me. And then, just to be on the safe side, I also picked up that Vac-U-Lock Double Penetrator. That way, even if I chicken out, he can still fulfill one of my fantasies. A girl has to cover her bases, right?
Now I'm just working on getting comfortable with this harness and its attachments before I even go near his tushy. I want to customize the fit of my harness and master changing the interchangeable attachments. And, most importantly, I want to practice my entry technique and hip moves. When we get down to business, I want to please him like a pro, not blindly jab at his nether regions.
Lastly, I bought copious amounts of lube and glide.You can never have too much. Stock up!
I haven’t pegged him yet, but it is his birthday is next weekend. I think I’ll be ready to give him just what he’s been asking for.
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