You'll hear lots of arguments against porn, but I don't buy them. I think porn is good for your sex life. If ever you've needed a hall pass to go and catch up on all the porn you've been missing out on, this is it. Porn is one of those great dichotomies in life, but I love almost everything about it. Porn, above all, serves to arouse and entertain those filthy eyes of ours, until such time as it has served its purpose. In my opinion, though, one of the things that porn does achieve, without many of us realizing it, is broadening our sexual appreciation. Porn educates us on a wide array of all things sexual, including likes, dislikes, fetishes, positions, roles, behaviors, settings. Most importantly, it taps into that subconscious element of our fantasies, which we are often far too good at keeping under wraps.
Sexual Desires and Social Constraints
Our innermost sexual desires are still often self-perceived as being potentially embarrassing and socially unacceptable to those around us. This is the small minded social framework that most of us live within. I shed any such feelings many years ago, and would like to effect as much positive change on others in my lifetime as I can. One might argue that our sex lives shouldn't be put on public display. Perhaps they're right. I've chosen to take a very contrasting approach to that mindset. Yet, our sexualities are a very personal journey, and it's each to their own as far as this is concerned. Porn remains a private way of exploring what turns you on. It may, however, open you up to sharing these things with a partner as well. When it comes to your sex life, that isn't a bad thing. (Read another perspective in Porn: Love It Or Leave It?)
Sex Is Part of Life
Sex is very much a part of every one of us, and it's completely natural. Our innermost sexual desires reflect who we are as people. It is an important core to any fulfilled and balanced individual. Sexual repression is out these days. Big time.
In the greater scheme of our individual realities, porn can serve to allow us to connect with the very things that we enjoy, yet haven't perhaps developed enough of an understanding of to be able to feel comfortable discussing with our playmates. Fetishes, group sex, anything at all - it can all be explored with the right porn flick.
Learning From Porn
Part of the reason porn gets such a bad rap is that there is so much of it out there and a lot of it is bad. There is quite a lot of crap on the Internet. Yet the beauty of the Internet is the ability to find anything and everything you want. It just may involve a bit of time and patience. Find what you're into, and if it costs a couple of bucks, so be it. I've learned a lot from porn; I've also learned a lot by making amateur videos of my own. There's such an abundance of amateur porn online now. You can find anything from sex on a surfboard or ATV to some seriously challenging positions performed by some very willing and able show ponies. I've been taking quite a few notes (and screen shots) of late, of things that even manage to impress me. And that's pretty cool.
As for that exception to things that I don't love about porn? Well, for the most part sex isn't anything like a porn flick in so many ways. Let it inspire you try some new things, but don't aim to imitate. (See: Porn Sex Vs. Real Sex (Explained Using Food)).
