How to Hit the PS-Spot Right
Because of its convenient placement, the perineal sponge can be stimulated in a number of ways and with a variety of toys. It can be accessed via the lower back wall of the vagina or the front of wall of the rectum; fingers or curved toys are great for applying pressure from either of these angles (just remember, toys used anally should always have flared bases).
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If you want to try to love on your perineal sponge during intercourse - either with a penis or a harnessed dildo - think of positioning yourself in ways that direct your phallic implement of choice toward the back wall of the vagina. A woman-on-top position with torsos together is good for this, as is seated and facing each other (great time for couch sex!), or even missionary. Basically, you're looking at positions that aim the opposite way as you'd want to go for your G-spot, because the PS-spot is on the other side. (Need inspiration? Check out our Sex Position Playlist.)
The perineal sponge may respond to pressure on the perineum from outside of the body too. Try a vibrator that you would normally use clitorally and press it against the span of skin between the vagina and anus.
PS, I Don't Feel It ...
The PS-spot can produce fireworks. It can. But that doesn't mean it'll happen to you. Everything feels different for everyone. If you try perineal sponge stimulation and it doesn’t pop your cork, don’t fret; it doesn’t mean yours is broken. It just means that this isn’t your cup of tea, and that’s OK. Learning about these spots and exploring them is like a treasure hunt; sometimes you find great stuff and sometimes you just find, well, stuff. Either way it’s an adventure. And if the PS-spot doesn't deliver, just keep on hunting. It won't be long until you find something that does. (For more female-friendly sex tips, check out The No.1 Secret to the Female Orgasm.)