Anal sex can be healthy - and orgasmic - but only if you do it right.
Anal sex can be amazing - and orgasmic. As my friend and fellow sex educator Rachel Venning says, "Anal sex is like yoga for your butt!" And I agree. It's healthy for the anal muscles, bringing blood and circulation into the sphincter. But I'm also not afraid to address the obstacles to having great anal play. Here are four valid reasons why you might not want to do it.
Anal sex, when done properly, should not hurt. It might feel funny, like you are pooping backwards, but it should not hurt. You must use lube because unlike the vagina, your butt is not self-lubricating. In other words, anal sex is different, and it takes a little more knowledge and preparation. So study up, butt lovers. Start by reading "Anal Health and Pleasure." You’ll learn how to approach that tricky little ring of delightful muscles, the G-spot, the prostate and how to care for yourself and your lovers.
According to the National Survey of Sexual Health and Behavior, 40 percent of adults have experienced anal sex. Of those, 20 percent have enjoyed it within the last year. Lots of people find joy, orgasms and pleasure by way of this equal opportunity orifice! And if you decide that you want to add anal play to your roster, that’s all I want for you too. Just do it safely. Please. Ultimately, it’s your butt on the line.
Want more great sex advice? Check out Ducky's book, "Sex With the Lights On: Illuminating Sex Questions Answered."
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Ducky DooLittle is a sex educator from NYC. She is also the author of "Sex with the Lights On: 200 Illuminating Sex Questions Answered". Ducky has appeared in the New York Times, HBO's "Real Sex", "The Morning Show", MTV, NPR, "The Howard Stern Show" and Playboy TV, to name a few. Full Bio
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