Over-the-Top Position

Updated: SEPTEMBER 25, 2023

The Over-the-Top sex position is a unique way to approach penetrative anal sex. It’s not only a unique way to enjoy this sexual activity, but it also provides a wide range of exciting benefits.

Over The Top position. The penetrating partner is seated on top of a low, sturdy, flat surface. Their thighs are spread. The receiving partner sits on top of the penetrating partner's lap, facing away from them. Both partner's feet are flat on the ground.

How to Get Into the Over-the-Top Sex Position

Getting into the Over-the-Top position involves the penetrating person sitting on a chair or low table. When they’re ready, their partner then sits on their lap. An excellent way to maintain control and balance is for the partner in front to put their hands on the penetrating person’s thighs. This position might be great for full-time wheelchair users whose partners are able-bodied or have varying degrees of ability.

To aid in the penetrating part of this position, both people can employ their backs, legs, and even arms -as in pulling someone closer or gently pushing them back - to speed things up, slow them down, or reduce or increase the depth and sensation.

Although the depth of penetration may be somewhat limited as opposed to something like doggy-style, the Over-the-Top Position gives both the receiver and giver myriad means to alter the angle and speed mutually. The emphasis here is on "mutual," as the Over-the-Top Position is the dictionary definition of a shared erotic experience. Again, this can be ideal for those new anal sex or who want a more slow, sensual time with their partner.

More About Over-the-Top Position

Because the Over-the-Top Position needs both parties involved to hold themselves in a certain way for it to work, those with pain issues, muscle spasms, or complex disabilities such as cerebral palsy, in addition to different body types, may need to make their own adjustments. We can certainly see a wheelchair user trying this position with a partner because they don’t have to try and change positions!

When all’s said and done, the Over-the-Top Position provides anal penetrative play with that essential part of any good sexual interaction: communication. With its ability to see and hear each other, this position can do wonders to help make this type of play extra exciting and comfortable.

Teamwork is a necessary skill to have in your arsenal for sex, and making the most of this position is no exception. Achieving the right balance together with your partner is going to be the key to nailing this position. But remember, if disability, chronic pain, or anything else impedes trying this position, talk to each other about other ways you can explore anal play together.



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