My husband loves nipple play. Can you suggest any toys or techniques I can use?


My husband loves nipple play as foreplay and to push him over the edge to orgasm. I've done all the basic things I can think of - kissing, licking, sucking, nibbling, rubbing, pinching - but I've wondered if there is more I could try. He loves to give me toys as gifts and I would love to know if there are toys I could get him to bring him new, exciting pleasure during nipple play. Could you suggest any toys and/or techniques for male nipples?


What a fun question! First off, the fact that you have already been engaging in nipple play means that you have a head start on knowing what your partner likes in terms of pressure, sensation, etc. - and that's awesome! Now, here are some ideas to take things to the next level. When it comes to toys, the most obvious starting point is nipple clamps. Available in a variety of sizes, shapes and intensities, and with add-ons like chains for pulling, weights, and even small vibrators, there are many options for giving your partner a continuous squeeze while you play. Additionally, nipple suckers can be a lot of fun. They fit directly over the nipple and use suction to increase sensitivity. My final product recommendation is a small vibrator that will allow you to focus vibration directly onto the nipples. Anything from a bullet vibe to something you can wear on your hand to transmit vibration directly from your fingers like the Jimmyjane Hello Touch will do. When it comes to techniques, temperature play can be a lot of fun. Ice cubes or warm wax from a massage candle (make sure to read the instructions so as not to burn your partner) can create wonderful sensation. To make it a bit more hands on, you can put the ice or some warm water in your mouth and then apply your mouth to the nipples.

Happy playing!

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JoEllen is a writer, speaker, researcher and mental health advocate whose work explores the impact of depression on sex and relationships. Since 2012 she has written about sex, mental health, and how none of us are broken on her award-winning site The Redhead Bedhead.

JoEllen is currently writing her first book: “The Monster Under the Bed: Sex, Depression & The Conversation We Aren’t Having”


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