The Spread Eagle position also has "marathon session" written all over it. Because the bound person is fully supported by the surface underneath them, this position can be easy to hold for hours and hours. If using bondage for the wrists in this position, however, make sure to occasionally remove the restraints -- or leave enough slack for the bound person to wiggle their wrists. Holding the wrists above the head can reduce circulation and cause them to go numb -- and that pins and needles feeling isn't fun for anyone!
In addition, couples should plan ahead for what they'd like to do during the Spread Eagle bondage position -- or be willing to remove some restraints. Because of the full-body restraint of Spread Eagle, the bound partner will be very stationary. Plan ahead of time if you'd like the bound partner to be able to move into a new position.
If desired, the bound partner can also be placed face-down during the Spread Eagle bondage position — but we highly recommend liberal use of pillows and open communication as many people may have difficulty breathing while lying on their stomach. A stomach-down position will make it easier to access the butt for any anal play during the Spread Eagle position, however.
While the Spread Eagle position is traditionally done on a bed's mattress, it can be undertaken anywhere there's a flat, comfortable surface. A large, open space on the floor may be a good fit -- especially if you're doing any Wet and Messy play or wax play.
You can also experiment with the bed's size itself for different angles. A smaller/Twin bed will make it easier for the non-bound partner to access the entire body while standing next to the bed. A full-sized California King bed will provide a large, spacious area -- perfect for cuddling next to the bound partner.
If choosing to enjoy bondage with the Spread Eagle position, your options are open. Bondage tape, like that included in the Bound to Please Arya Scene, can be used to restrain the limbs to the corners of a bed frame. If you're working without a bed frame, an under-the-bed restraint system can also be an option. You could also bind limbs to each other.
As the Spread Eagle position has the bound person laying flat, this position can be accessible to many couples. Couples with discordant height or weight, or couples with limited mobility, may find the Spread Eagle position a welcoming option. People with full-body paralysis can also enjoy this position, but regular movement of the limbs should be planned into the scene to avoid unintentional circulation issues from maintaining this position.
The non-bound partner can also participate in the Spread Eagle position in ways that best honor their own body. This may include laying next to the bound partner, standing next to the bed or even bringing a chair next to the bed to sit next to their partner throughout the scene. Most importantly, the non-bound partner should listen to their own body's cues about their comfort level. As this position may leave the non-bound partner bending for long periods of time, this position can stress multiple major muscles of the body -- especially for long, marathon sessions.
Even with these practices in mind, the Spread Eagle sex position may not be a good fit for all couples. Especially for the not-bound partner, the Spread Eagle position can include a lot of strain on the lower back as they bend over the bound partner. Feel free to choose another position if this position isn't honoring the bodies you're in today. Remember: Sex is about the intimacy and connection involved. The Spread Eagle position isn't required to make those things happen, so choose a sex position that fits both of your bodies best.
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