Welcome to "The More You Know!" edition of Sex Stories We Love! Knowledge is sexy, but we can't all know everything about sex. We all need to take time to learn, to grow, and to listen to others.

Strap-ons for Sex Ed

Given that I swiped this week's catchphrase from educational public service announcements, it only makes sense that we start off with someone who makes a difference by supporting inclusive gender and sex education. Alex, a trans non-binary teacher from rural Ontario, Canada, is an educational superstar. They recognize the huge gap that exists in ensuring kids in small communities get access to inclusive sex education. So, Alex gets out to different schools, talking to GSAs (gay-straight alliances), and fellow teachers to guide and teach about health, sexuality, and sex. They help out kids who otherwise might not have access to such information. They help teachers become inclusive and understanding. Yet going above and beyond to make a difference comes with a price. So, Alex also sells strap-on harnesses on the side to fund presentations and travel. Fantastic work, friend!

Phallus Fallacies

It's no surprise there are so many misconceptions out there about penises. For something that gets so damn much attention in society, we sure do believe a bunch of myths about cock. Maybe this is because the only dick detail we usually pay attention to is the size. Checking out some of these most common misunderstandings show just how much we try to evade basic ideas about human anatomy. That folks out there really believe that a person's shoe size is sadly shocking. We desperately need to cultivate a culture that isn't afraid to talk about our bodies...the physical base of our sex.

Using Your (Good) Head

You know what isn't a surprise? Some folks are failing at cunnilingus. Now, before anyone gets their boxers in a knot, let's all take a moment to realize what this article provides: great ways to bring sexual pleasure to your sex partner through oral sex. Does it point out straight men as being lesser at going down? Yep. Is that a bad thing? No. The bad thing is not reciprocating oral. Another bad thing is not making an effort to step up your licking abilities. So, here's an opportunity. If your partner told you they'd like more out of your mouth, here's your chance to take some excellent advice from queer women.

Fielding Fantasies

Now, getting better at oral sex, regardless of who you're going down on, does require a very important connection: communication. If you're not getting all you want out of your sex life, it is very important that you share your concerns and desires with your partner. This is especially true of particular fantasies that really drive you wild. We've long been taught to repress our fantasies, to keep them hidden away. Moreso if those desires fall outside the bounds of "normal" sex. Yet you'll never know if someone you're having sex with is interested in experiencing these secret sensations unless you let the cat out of the bag.

However, there is one important thing to remember: if your partner isn't interested in partaking, you must remember that they have agency. And you must decide if this lack of desire is a deal breaker. Hey, nobody said getting to know each other's sexy thoughts would be easy.

Benefits for Bedtime

It's funny. As kids, we spend so much time trying to avoid going to bed. Then, we become teens and young adults and all we want is to get in bed. Then, we get a little older and we must weigh the options: have sex or get a good night's sleep. Turns out, we just need to go to bed...or have fun on the couch, floor, counter, wherever and THEN get ready for a good night's sleep. Recent research shows that sex before going to bed can set us up for better sleep and other benefits particularly if you get off. So, it isn't just sex that sets you up for slumber, but the orgasm. The good news is that sex doesn't need to be partnered. There are many other benefits to orgasm before bed. Starting to sound like a good reason to dial back that bedtime, no?

No Sexy Relief

Finally, have you heard the one about sex helping to alleviate the discomfort of hay fever? Unfortunately, the truth might make you sniffle.