Sometimes when I'm about to orgasm I feel like I really have to pee. I'm worried that if I don't stop, I'll wet the bed!

Q:

Sometimes when I'm about to orgasm I feel like I really have to pee. I'm worried that if I don't stop, I'll wet the bed!

A:

Here's the thing: People are built to either have sex or go pee, but not do them at the same time. If you did have big muscular contractions and a lot of pressure and you really bore down, you might pee a little. It's possible. And it's OK. Our bodies make lots of different kinds of liquids, and that's what we are, we're liquid. Even so, most women are not peeing during sex.

What I recommend is that if you do feel that sensation during sex play, take a deep breath and relax your muscles and trust your body - and keep playing! What you are likely to find on the other side of that is deep pleasure and orgasm - not pee. This will be hard at first, but if you practice relaxing and trusting your body, you can retrain your brain to recognize what's actually an orgasm on the way (and for some people, possibly even a squirting one).

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Ducky DooLittle is a pleasure-based sex educator and the resident sex toy expert for Blush Novelties and Sola. She also leads the marketing team, does some sex toy design work, tests prototypes and brings pleasure to the world! She's also a certified Sexual Assault and Violence Intervention Counselor and the author of "Sex With the Lights On: 200 Illuminating Sex Questions Answered." Ducky has appeared in the New York Times, HBO's "Real Sex", "The Morning Show", MTV, NPR, "The Howard Stern Show" and Playboy TV.

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