Happy New Year! In a lot of ways, the past year was a strange and troubling one - there were many ways in which 2017 just didn’t add up. Let’s start off 2018 with a look back with a sex-by-numbers edition of Sex Stories We Love.

Transition Anticipation

What better way to start off a post about numbers than with the number one. We have mythologized the ideal of our first time having sex, which can be good and bad. A little romanticism and anticipation can be fun, but maudlin sentimentality often leads to distinct disappointment. Charlie Craggs went into her first sexual experience with a straight man as a fully-presenting trans woman with a nice mixture of both ideals. Unfortunately, she came away from it without coming and that not coming became a bone of contention. Yet, it's one that has been noted for a long time in our current sexual climate: many men don’t care about their partners' pleasure. Charlie’s experience is not unique, but it is intriguing to hear a transwoman’s perspective - an opinion rarely counted.

Sexy Cells

Sex geeks among us, behold the fabulous sexcel spreadsheet! Really, what the inimitable Kate Sloan (aka Girly Juice) has put together here is a marvel. If everybody put this kind of thought and attention into their sexual experiences, we’d be having significantly different conversations with each other. Relationships would take on very different dynamics. It might be nerdy to track your exploits, but let’s remember, nerdy became the new sexy years ago. And through this nerdy attention to detail, Kate learned some things about herself, her comforts, her preferences, and her likes. The opportunity to look back on experiences with more than just memory could help us all. This may be something worth giving a try in the new year.

Sex Research Rocks

You know that spreadsheets aren’t just for when we spread on our own sheets, right? Let’s raise a toast to the intrepid sex researchers who have come through with some amazing work in 2017. We’re talking genetics, biology, sociology, psychology - so many great advances were made. This can happen because institutions - both private and academic - are starting to understand the value of sex research. Whether we’re talking about sexual habits such as having threesomes or the potential genetic base of homosexuality, this invaluable work will continue to create a better, more understanding sexual world for us all. Plus, white lab coats definitely have some kink-appeal!

Moving Forward

You want numbers? Here is a number: five. As in five things that we are still working on to improve our sexual world. Laid out by legendary sexologist Carol Queen, issues relating to intersectionality, acceptance, pleasure, consent, and sex education are still top of the list when it comes to areas in which we need to improve. All of us. We cannot afford to take a foot off the pedal at this point. If you’re living a life that embodies these values and makes these things happen, you gotta keep at it. Show how you invite all voices to the conversations and prioritize those who have been silenced. Discuss pleasure and why it is so damn great. Focus on how consent works, not the appearance of abusers. And teach - spread all the knowledge as far as you can!

No Butts About It

And how’s this for another number: too many. It is that time when medical practitioners give us just a little bit of silly glee at the misfortune of others. It is time for the annual “odd things people put in their butts” list. Now, while you read this with shock and amazement, it is important to remember that, for some, pursuing sexual pleasure is still a difficult task because of family, community and stigma. And that can mean making some bad choices about how people please themselves (and what they decide to insert into their bodies). This is why better sex education is so important!

Maybe a catchy slogan will help: “No flared base, don’t put it in THAT place.” Check out the wide variety of butt plugs that won’t require a trip to the hospital - and future inclusion on this list.

Steamy Celluloid

Finally, 2017 turned out some pretty sexy content on our screens. Did you see any other hot scenes in film and television worthy of a smoldering share?