Kinkly Q&A
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How do we stay connected in a time of anxiety?
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Top surgery has caused me to lose feeling in my erogenous zones. What can I do?
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I've never been able to orgasm through sex with my partner, but I'm afraid to tell them. What should I do?
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How can I last longer in bed?
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I'm interested in becoming a sex educator. Where do I begin?
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Sexual health for survivors? What does that even mean?
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How do I advocate for myself during doctors visits, if I am a sexual assault survivor?
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What is the best type of bondage to try if you’re a beginner?
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Why do people feel that there is a hierarchy to trauma?
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What is the pudendal nerve?
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What are some examples of gaslighting that can happen in an intimate relationship?
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As a sexual assault survivor, I find all the recent allegations of sexual assault in the news really upsetting and triggering. What can I do to survive them?
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How do I know someone is safe for me?
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Do you have any advice or tips for people who are experimenting with bondage on a budget?
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What is a SART exam and how can you support your friend if they have to get one?
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I'm curious about bondage but uneasy about giving up control and becoming so vulnerable. Do you have any tips?
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I want to work to support sexual assault survivors. How can I do that?
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How can I reclaim my sexuality after sexual assault?
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My partner often wants to have sex when I don't. Should I go through it to please them or just tell them I'm not into it?
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When I'm having sex, my inner critic seems to take over. How can I learn to say more positive things about myself and feel sexier?
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How do you define trauma and what are some of the less common markers of trauma that some people may not recognize?
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I feel like stress often shuts down my sex life. What can I do to manage better and keep me in the mood?
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I have anxiety and it's affecting my sex life. What can I do about it?
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A friend says they want 'healthy boundaries.' What does that mean?
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One bad night is ruining my sex life. Help!
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Sexual violence is hard to talk about. How can I get more comfortable with this topic?
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How can I support a male who has identified themselves to me as a sexual assault survivor?
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What is sex therapy?
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How can I check in with my partner after a group experience and make sure we're feeling grounded in our relationship?
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Is there an organic way to facilitate a threesome?
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How do you navigate communication and relationship if you're a highly sensitive person and the other person isn't?
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I want to make my blindfolded submissive partner feel like there's a third person in the room. Any suggestions?
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My girlfriend doesn't believe I am just not that interested in sex. Help me!
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I'm too anxious to enjoy sex. Can you help?
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What are some good sex positions when using a butt plug?
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My orgasm keeps getting stuck during sex. How do I stop this from happening?
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What do you need to have good anal sex?
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Sometimes when I'm about to orgasm I feel like I really have to pee. I'm worried that if I don't stop, I'll wet the bed!
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The sex toy I bought doesn't work for my body. What should I do?
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Sometimes I get a stabbing sensation during penetrative sex with my partner. Is something wrong?
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I'm freaked out by his costume requests! What do I do?
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Do most people experience pain during intercourse? Isn't it just inherently painful?
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Are sex toys a new thing or have people been using them for a long time?
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I know BDSM is all the rage, but the idea of tying someone up and spanking them totally freaks me out! Am I abnormal, or what?
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I'm going through menopause and I feel like my vagina is dry and irritated. Intercourse and oral sex are so painful! What can I do
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I've heard that some sex toy materials are dangerous. Which sex toy materials are good and which are not so good?
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What are the major sexual hot spots on a female body?
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How do I know I've had an orgasm?
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My partner's nagging about orgasm prevents me from enjoying sex. What can I do?
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I'm sick of being the only one to initiate. What can I do?
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What household items make good sex toys?
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My boyfriend tries to have sex with me while he's sleeping and says he does't remember it the next day. Is this normal, or is he lying?
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How can I convey to my children that I have sexual feelings and thoughts without embarrassing them?
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My husband and I have stopped having sex, but want to stay together for the kids. Can we make this work?
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Is there some etiquette to attending a BDSM munch?
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Can rebound sex help me get over my ex?
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I am uncomfortable revealing my sexual history to new partners. What can I do?
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Why do some Dommes charge for their services?
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I want to buy a corset. What do I need to know to choose one?
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Help! I need some foolproof hand job tips!
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Can reading about sex on the internet help improve my sex life?
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What is a love and relationship coach?
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Why is anal sex still taboo?
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How quickly can a guy get another erection after ejaculating?
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What can I do to help my partner maintain his erection?
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How can I last longer when giving oral sex to a man?
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What is the difference between sex and gender?
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Where can I find casual sex partners?
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What is a sex educator?
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I'm a woman who experiences pain during sex. Is there anything I can do about it?
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Why would you need more than one Dom(me)?
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Can I increase the sensitivity of my clitoris?
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I'm a married man with a growing anal fetish. How can I satisfy it if my wife isn't interested?
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Do you have any tips for coaching a guy who isn’t great in bed?
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I'm scared my spouse is losing interest in me because of our alternative sex life.
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Are there different types of female orgasm?
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What is the swing lifestyle?
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What is the morning after pill and how does it work?
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I want to live out my fantasies! What do I do?
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Does withdrawal work as a form of birth control?
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What will happen if I stop taking the birth control pill?
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Is taking a few birth control pills at once the same as taking the morning after pill?
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Will sex toys desensitize my clit and ruin me for partner play?
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How exactly does one massage a guy’s prostate?
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How can I orgasm from penetration alone?
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My partner has a huge pubic mound. How can I satisfy her?
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How do you put a condom on an uncircumcised penis?
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Do men have control over when they orgasm and ejaculate?
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What is a pap test, and do I need to get one?
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What causes a condom to tear?
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My partner is a little too vanilla. How do I introduce new flavors?
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How can I have Skype sex if I'm too embarrassed to talk dirty?
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What causes the birth control pill to fail?
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Will the birth control pill affect my sex drive?
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How can I spice things up with my long-time lover?
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Can this strap-on loving lesbian learn to compromise?
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Can I learn to love my own gender?
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My partner wants me to punch her and engage in other rough play. How can I do this for her without causing harm?
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What ropes are best for leaving residual marks without being too painful?
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My husband loves nipple play. Can you suggest any toys or techniques I can use?
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I miss enjoying sex, but I'm just not interested anymore. What can I do?
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I am with a guy who has a sneaker fetish. How can we work this into our play?
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I've been married for 35 years and we've lost the passion in the relationship. How can we get it back?
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What happens at a BDSM munch?
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I've been using orgasms to deal with severe back pain. It seems to work. Is this OK?
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I had an allergic reaction because of a sex toy. What can I do?
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I'm considering a career in sex education. Where do I start?
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Could masturbating from a young age have caused damage to my clitoris?
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What is a prostate massager and how do I use one?
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What is the best harness to use with a "strapless" double dildo?
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Sex with the love of my life isn't as hot as I expected. What gives?
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Is it possible to have an orgasm by just thinking about it, without being touched at all?
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What kind of lubricant should I use for anal sex?
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Is it OK to wear a butt plug all the time?
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What's the difference between a wood, leather or silicone spanking paddle?
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I want sex, but I'm too tired at the end of the day. What can I do?
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What's the best way to keep sex interesting?
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Orgasm denial made me feel grumpy instead of sexy! What is wrong with me?
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I haven't enjoyed sex since I gave birth. Is there something wrong with me?
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My sex life has been so-so, but I don't know how to step things up. Can you help?
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Our kids caught us having sex and now I'm afraid to do it in the house. What can I do?
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I can't make my partner orgasm during sex. Is it because my penis is too small?
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What devices or exercises can I use to work my PC muscles?
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My partner refuses to let me NOT orgasm, even when I don't want to have one. Is there any alternative to faking it?
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I've heard that the pull-out method is as effective as a condom. Is this true?
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I'm dating a man with a small penis. What can I do to make sure that I have an orgasm?
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My wife wants to use a strap-on. Does that feel good for men?
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I want to start masturbating. How do I get started?
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I am a man who enjoys receiving anal play. Does this make me gay?
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Are there sex toys I can use to tease a male partner in public?
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Help! I come way too fast!
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I have the urge to ejaculate into my own mouth. Is this normal?
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If I use a sex toy for anal play, will it get contaminated?
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I am a man who enjoys wearing women's underwear. Can you help me?
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I am a very dominant woman in my daily life, but I crave submission in the bedroom. How do I tell my partner what I need?
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Is it OK to take generic birth control pills or are the brand-name pills better?
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Could birth control pills explain why my girlfriend suddenly broke up with me?
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Can all women achieve multiple orgasms?
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Should my partner and I choose a male or female to create our first threesome?
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I'm a submissive. How do I find a Mistress?
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The sex is good, but I don't always get to orgasm. How do I bring it up?
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Which sex positions do men like best?
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I'm having issues with my erection. What can I do?
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I need a lube that won't get sticky. What do you suggest?
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What's the best way to go down on a woman?
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Pleasuring my wife is my biggest turn on. What would you recommend that I use on her?
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Kegel balls don't arouse me. What am I doing wrong?
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How do I give amazing head?
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My partner and I began having sexual encounters together with other men. Now he’s not interested in having sex with just me. What should I do?
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Will using vibrators decrease my desire for a partner?
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I was sexually assaulted. Now sex with my boyfriend is triggering panic attacks. What can I do?
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My partner wants me to talk dirty, but it makes me uncomfortable. What should I do?
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I’m meeting my online boyfriend for the first next week for sex. Should I ask to see his STD test results?
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When should I tell someone I’m attracted to that I’m poly?
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Are all poly relationships the same?
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I really want to have anal sex with my husband. How do we have anal sex for the first time?
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I've been married for 10 years. I'm into the idea of BDSM. What should I talk about first with my wife?
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I caught my girlfriend watching porn. How can I talk to her about it?
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I recently broke up with my long term boyfriend. Is it normal that I want to go out and have some fun?
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I hate my husband's porn habits. Can you help?
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What makes a good safeword?
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How do I meet a dominant man?
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I'm afraid I might fart during sex. Can you help me?
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Since I started my anti-depressants I seem to want MORE sex. Could this be a side effect of my drugs?
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My partner has started dating someone new. How can I deal with the jealousy I'm feeling?
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When should I tell a random hookup I am HIV positive?
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I'm sexually curious, but my husband always shuts me down. What can I do to get the sex life I want?
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My partner is depressed and doesn't want to have sex. What can I do to get her in the mood?
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How do I know when I should use a new condom?
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How is sensory deprivation used in BDSM?
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I think my girlfriend is faking her orgasms. How can I make sure that she cums?
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Is polyamory the same as swinging?
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How can I talk to my boyfriend about wanting kinkier sex without freaking him out?
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I love my husband, but our sex life is stuck in a rut. What can I do?
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My boyfriend cums fast. Is there anything I can do to make it last longer?
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I want to use a glass butt plug with my girlfriend. Could it break inside of her?
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I'm curious about double penetration. What do I need to know?
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What is the difference in sensation between anal beads and an anal plug?
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How can I have a g-spot orgasm?
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How can my boyfriend and I get started with pegging?
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What are forced orgasms?
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My partner and I are having a hard time finding the time for sex. Help!
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What does it feel like to wear a penis extender?
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How do I use Ben Wa balls?
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What is a sex coach?
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What's the best way to give a handjob?
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How do you prepare for analingus?
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My partner won't provide oral during foreplay. What can I do?
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I am interested in dating someone who is HIV-positive, but I am HIV-negative. Can I do this safely?
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Are glass sex toys safe?
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How should I prepare myself for anal sex?
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What are the best lubes for anal sex?
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What is the best way to try electrosex?
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What is anal gaping?
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Is tantric sex really better? How can I find out the basics?
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Where and how can I train as a submissive?
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Is it OK to call my wife dirty names?
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What is a male chastity cage and how does it work?
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What foods can I use for sploshing?
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My partner doesn't like sex anymore. How can I fix this?
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How can I talk to my girlfriend about my foot fetish?
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Can men use vibrators?
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Can I stop the urge to use the bathroom during anal sex?
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Can a vibrator help make sex more comfortable for me?
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How do I pack sex toys to take on a trip?
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What type of vibrator would you recommend for a woman who has never tried a sex toy before?
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Do women care how often a man 'squirts' when he ejaculates?
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I'm embarrassed about dirty talk. Any suggestions?
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Am I too old to be kinky?
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What is the difference between a hard and a soft limit?
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Getting my sex life back after menopause has been tough. Any suggestions?
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I am a middle-aged man with a too-small penis. How can I reignite my sex life with my uninterested wife?
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Do people in D/s relationships ever just have sex?
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Can I be submissive if I don't like pain?
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What is an anal orgasm and what does it feel like?
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How do you negotiate an MFM threesome?
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Do you know why some Doms wants to be addressed as “Sir” and others as “Master?”
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I have several fetishes that I am nervous about bringing up. How can I get the sex life I want with a new girlfriend?
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Is it wise for a novice Dom and a novice sub to get together?
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How do you minimize risk when meeting someone for the first time?
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I’m pregnant and having difficulty having sex. What are some sex positions my husband and I could try?
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Over time my metal kegel balls have changed color. Are they still safe to use?
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I discovered a Fetlife profile I believe is my daughter's. How do I bring this up?
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How do I get my partner to share their likes and desires with me?
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My new partner has a huge penis ... and it's a problem for me. Any suggestions?
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Anal sex hurts. Is there anything I can do?
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I want to bring sex toys on vacation, but my partner is worried about airport security. Any advice?
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After an extended session of rough play, my partner was shaking and seemed out of it. Did I go too far?
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My partner suffered an injury that makes sex more difficult. What can we do to keep our love life active?
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My wife and I would like to try sex toys. What would you recommend?
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It's our first time trying anal sex - do you have any safety tips?
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What's the difference between a "bottom" and a "sub"?
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How can I find a partner who is as kinky as I am?
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My wife has never had an orgasm from sex. What can I do to make that happen?
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My partner and I are interested in trying some wax play. Do we need to use a certain type of candle?
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My partner doesn't want me to masturbate. What should I do?
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My partner and I talked about having a threesome, but she hasn't mentioned it since. What gives?
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Where can a submissive and dominant go to play safely together?
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I like being spanked but my partner is worried about hurting me. What should we do?
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What is caning?
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A bad breakup has made it hard for me to enjoy sex with other women. What gives?
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I've had bad experiences with anal sex. Should I try again?
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How can I learn to become a good master?
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I feel no desire or arousal. What can I do to get my horniness back?
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How do you "milk" a prostate?
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How can I have more sex with my partner?
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What is Shibari and how can I learn how to do it?
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Can I still consider myself a feminist if I like a man to dominate me in bed?
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The impact play products at our local sex shop are out of our price range. What can we do?
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Ever since my partner had a baby, she doesn't want to have sex. What can I do?
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What are Ben Wa balls?
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I haven't had sex yet. How can I tell if I'm ready?
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I've had a lot of sexual partners but my partner hasn't and is upset. What should I do?
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I feel like I've lost my sex drive. What should I do?
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How can my partner and I have simultaneous orgasms?
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I want to have a threesome but I'm worried about how I look. Any advice?
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How can I keep anal sex from getting messy?
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What’s the best way to make a woman squirt?
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Why do guys want a lover to swallow?