Kinkly Q&A

How do we stay connected in a time of anxiety?
Top surgery has caused me to lose feeling in my erogenous zones. What can I do?
I've never been able to orgasm through sex with my partner, but I'm afraid to tell them. What should I do?
How can I last longer in bed?
I'm interested in becoming a sex educator. Where do I begin?
Sexual health for survivors? What does that even mean?
How do I advocate for myself during doctors visits, if I am a sexual assault survivor?
What is the best type of bondage to try if you’re a beginner?
Why do people feel that there is a hierarchy to trauma?
What is the pudendal nerve?
What are some examples of gaslighting that can happen in an intimate relationship?
As a sexual assault survivor, I find all the recent allegations of sexual assault in the news really upsetting and triggering. What can I do to survive them?
How do I know someone is safe for me?
Do you have any advice or tips for people who are experimenting with bondage on a budget?
What is a SART exam and how can you support your friend if they have to get one?
I'm curious about bondage but uneasy about giving up control and becoming so vulnerable. Do you have any tips?
I want to work to support sexual assault survivors. How can I do that?
How can I reclaim my sexuality after sexual assault?
My partner often wants to have sex when I don't. Should I go through it to please them or just tell them I'm not into it?
When I'm having sex, my inner critic seems to take over. How can I learn to say more positive things about myself and feel sexier?
How do you define trauma and what are some of the less common markers of trauma that some people may not recognize?
I feel like stress often shuts down my sex life. What can I do to manage better and keep me in the mood?
I have anxiety and it's affecting my sex life. What can I do about it?
A friend says they want 'healthy boundaries.' What does that mean?
One bad night is ruining my sex life. Help!
Sexual violence is hard to talk about. How can I get more comfortable with this topic?
How can I support a male who has identified themselves to me as a sexual assault survivor?
What is sex therapy?
How can I check in with my partner after a group experience and make sure we're feeling grounded in our relationship?
Is there an organic way to facilitate a threesome?
How do you navigate communication and relationship if you're a highly sensitive person and the other person isn't?
I want to make my blindfolded submissive partner feel like there's a third person in the room. Any suggestions?
My girlfriend doesn't believe I am just not that interested in sex. Help me!
I'm too anxious to enjoy sex. Can you help?
What are some good sex positions when using a butt plug?
My orgasm keeps getting stuck during sex. How do I stop this from happening?
What do you need to have good anal sex?
Sometimes when I'm about to orgasm I feel like I really have to pee. I'm worried that if I don't stop, I'll wet the bed!
The sex toy I bought doesn't work for my body. What should I do?
Sometimes I get a stabbing sensation during penetrative sex with my partner. Is something wrong?
I'm freaked out by his costume requests! What do I do?
Do most people experience pain during intercourse? Isn't it just inherently painful?
Are sex toys a new thing or have people been using them for a long time?
I know BDSM is all the rage, but the idea of tying someone up and spanking them totally freaks me out! Am I abnormal, or what?
I'm going through menopause and I feel like my vagina is dry and irritated. Intercourse and oral sex are so painful! What can I do
I've heard that some sex toy materials are dangerous. Which sex toy materials are good and which are not so good?
What are the major sexual hot spots on a female body?
How do I know I've had an orgasm?
My partner's nagging about orgasm prevents me from enjoying sex. What can I do?
I'm sick of being the only one to initiate. What can I do?
What household items make good sex toys?
My boyfriend tries to have sex with me while he's sleeping and says he does't remember it the next day. Is this normal, or is he lying?
How can I convey to my children that I have sexual feelings and thoughts without embarrassing them?
My husband and I have stopped having sex, but want to stay together for the kids. Can we make this work?
Is there some etiquette to attending a BDSM munch?
Can rebound sex help me get over my ex?
I am uncomfortable revealing my sexual history to new partners. What can I do?
Why do some Dommes charge for their services?
I want to buy a corset. What do I need to know to choose one?
Help! I need some foolproof hand job tips!
Can reading about sex on the internet help improve my sex life?
What is a love and relationship coach?
Why is anal sex still taboo?
How quickly can a guy get another erection after ejaculating?
What can I do to help my partner maintain his erection?
How can I last longer when giving oral sex to a man?
What is the difference between sex and gender?
Where can I find casual sex partners?
What is a sex educator?
I'm a woman who experiences pain during sex. Is there anything I can do about it?
Why would you need more than one Dom(me)?
Can I increase the sensitivity of my clitoris?
I'm a married man with a growing anal fetish. How can I satisfy it if my wife isn't interested?
Do you have any tips for coaching a guy who isn’t great in bed?
I'm scared my spouse is losing interest in me because of our alternative sex life.
Are there different types of female orgasm?
What is the swing lifestyle?
What is the morning after pill and how does it work?
I want to live out my fantasies! What do I do?
Does withdrawal work as a form of birth control?
What will happen if I stop taking the birth control pill?
Is taking a few birth control pills at once the same as taking the morning after pill?
Will sex toys desensitize my clit and ruin me for partner play?
How exactly does one massage a guy’s prostate?
How can I orgasm from penetration alone?
My partner has a huge pubic mound. How can I satisfy her?
How do you put a condom on an uncircumcised penis?
Do men have control over when they orgasm and ejaculate?
What is a pap test, and do I need to get one?
What causes a condom to tear?
My partner is a little too vanilla. How do I introduce new flavors?
How can I have Skype sex if I'm too embarrassed to talk dirty?
What causes the birth control pill to fail?
Will the birth control pill affect my sex drive?
How can I spice things up with my long-time lover?
Can this strap-on loving lesbian learn to compromise?
Can I learn to love my own gender?
My partner wants me to punch her and engage in other rough play. How can I do this for her without causing harm?
What ropes are best for leaving residual marks without being too painful?
My husband loves nipple play. Can you suggest any toys or techniques I can use?
I miss enjoying sex, but I'm just not interested anymore. What can I do?
I am with a guy who has a sneaker fetish. How can we work this into our play?
I've been married for 35 years and we've lost the passion in the relationship. How can we get it back?
What happens at a BDSM munch?
I've been using orgasms to deal with severe back pain. It seems to work. Is this OK?
I had an allergic reaction because of a sex toy. What can I do?
I'm considering a career in sex education. Where do I start?
Could masturbating from a young age have caused damage to my clitoris?
What is a prostate massager and how do I use one?
What is the best harness to use with a "strapless" double dildo?
Sex with the love of my life isn't as hot as I expected. What gives?
Is it possible to have an orgasm by just thinking about it, without being touched at all?
What kind of lubricant should I use for anal sex?
Is it OK to wear a butt plug all the time?
What's the difference between a wood, leather or silicone spanking paddle?
I want sex, but I'm too tired at the end of the day. What can I do?
What's the best way to keep sex interesting?
Orgasm denial made me feel grumpy instead of sexy! What is wrong with me?
I haven't enjoyed sex since I gave birth. Is there something wrong with me?
My sex life has been so-so, but I don't know how to step things up. Can you help?
Our kids caught us having sex and now I'm afraid to do it in the house. What can I do?
I can't make my partner orgasm during sex. Is it because my penis is too small?
What devices or exercises can I use to work my PC muscles?
My partner refuses to let me NOT orgasm, even when I don't want to have one. Is there any alternative to faking it?
I've heard that the pull-out method is as effective as a condom. Is this true?
I'm dating a man with a small penis. What can I do to make sure that I have an orgasm?
My wife wants to use a strap-on. Does that feel good for men?
I want to start masturbating. How do I get started?
I am a man who enjoys receiving anal play. Does this make me gay?
Are there sex toys I can use to tease a male partner in public?
Help! I come way too fast!
I have the urge to ejaculate into my own mouth. Is this normal?
If I use a sex toy for anal play, will it get contaminated?
I am a man who enjoys wearing women's underwear. Can you help me?
I am a very dominant woman in my daily life, but I crave submission in the bedroom. How do I tell my partner what I need?
Is it OK to take generic birth control pills or are the brand-name pills better?
Could birth control pills explain why my girlfriend suddenly broke up with me?
Can all women achieve multiple orgasms?
Should my partner and I choose a male or female to create our first threesome?
I'm a submissive. How do I find a Mistress?
The sex is good, but I don't always get to orgasm. How do I bring it up?
Which sex positions do men like best?
I'm having issues with my erection. What can I do?
I need a lube that won't get sticky. What do you suggest?
What's the best way to go down on a woman?
Pleasuring my wife is my biggest turn on. What would you recommend that I use on her?
Kegel balls don't arouse me. What am I doing wrong?
How do I give amazing head?
My partner and I began having sexual encounters together with other men. Now he’s not interested in having sex with just me. What should I do?
Will using vibrators decrease my desire for a partner?
I was sexually assaulted. Now sex with my boyfriend is triggering panic attacks. What can I do?
My partner wants me to talk dirty, but it makes me uncomfortable. What should I do?
I’m meeting my online boyfriend for the first next week for sex. Should I ask to see his STD test results?
When should I tell someone I’m attracted to that I’m poly?
Are all poly relationships the same?
I really want to have anal sex with my husband. How do we have anal sex for the first time?
I've been married for 10 years. I'm into the idea of BDSM. What should I talk about first with my wife?
I caught my girlfriend watching porn. How can I talk to her about it?
I recently broke up with my long term boyfriend. Is it normal that I want to go out and have some fun?
I hate my husband's porn habits. Can you help?
What makes a good safeword?
How do I meet a dominant man?
I'm afraid I might fart during sex. Can you help me?
Since I started my anti-depressants I seem to want MORE sex. Could this be a side effect of my drugs?
My partner has started dating someone new. How can I deal with the jealousy I'm feeling?
When should I tell a random hookup I am HIV positive?
I'm sexually curious, but my husband always shuts me down. What can I do to get the sex life I want?
My partner is depressed and doesn't want to have sex. What can I do to get her in the mood?
How do I know when I should use a new condom?
How is sensory deprivation used in BDSM?
I think my girlfriend is faking her orgasms. How can I make sure that she cums?
Is polyamory the same as swinging?
How can I talk to my boyfriend about wanting kinkier sex without freaking him out?
I love my husband, but our sex life is stuck in a rut. What can I do?
My boyfriend cums fast. Is there anything I can do to make it last longer?
I want to use a glass butt plug with my girlfriend. Could it break inside of her?
I'm curious about double penetration. What do I need to know?
What is the difference in sensation between anal beads and an anal plug?
How can I have a g-spot orgasm?
How can my boyfriend and I get started with pegging?
What are forced orgasms?
My partner and I are having a hard time finding the time for sex. Help!
What does it feel like to wear a penis extender?
How do I use Ben Wa balls?
What is a sex coach?
What's the best way to give a handjob?
How do you prepare for analingus?
My partner won't provide oral during foreplay. What can I do?
I am interested in dating someone who is HIV-positive, but I am HIV-negative. Can I do this safely?
Are glass sex toys safe?
How should I prepare myself for anal sex?
What are the best lubes for anal sex?
What is the best way to try electrosex?
What is anal gaping?
Is tantric sex really better? How can I find out the basics?
Where and how can I train as a submissive?
Is it OK to call my wife dirty names?
What is a male chastity cage and how does it work?
What foods can I use for sploshing?
My partner doesn't like sex anymore. How can I fix this?
How can I talk to my girlfriend about my foot fetish?
Can men use vibrators?
Can I stop the urge to use the bathroom during anal sex?
Can a vibrator help make sex more comfortable for me?
How do I pack sex toys to take on a trip?
What type of vibrator would you recommend for a woman who has never tried a sex toy before?
Do women care how often a man 'squirts' when he ejaculates?
I'm embarrassed about dirty talk. Any suggestions?
Am I too old to be kinky?
What is the difference between a hard and a soft limit?
Getting my sex life back after menopause has been tough. Any suggestions?
I am a middle-aged man with a too-small penis. How can I reignite my sex life with my uninterested wife?
Do people in D/s relationships ever just have sex?
Can I be submissive if I don't like pain?
What is an anal orgasm and what does it feel like?
How do you negotiate an MFM threesome?
Do you know why some Doms wants to be addressed as “Sir” and others as “Master?”
I have several fetishes that I am nervous about bringing up. How can I get the sex life I want with a new girlfriend?
Is it wise for a novice Dom and a novice sub to get together?
How do you minimize risk when meeting someone for the first time?
I’m pregnant and having difficulty having sex. What are some sex positions my husband and I could try?
Over time my metal kegel balls have changed color. Are they still safe to use?
I discovered a Fetlife profile I believe is my daughter's. How do I bring this up?
How do I get my partner to share their likes and desires with me?
My new partner has a huge penis ... and it's a problem for me. Any suggestions?
Anal sex hurts. Is there anything I can do?
I want to bring sex toys on vacation, but my partner is worried about airport security. Any advice?
After an extended session of rough play, my partner was shaking and seemed out of it. Did I go too far?
My partner suffered an injury that makes sex more difficult. What can we do to keep our love life active?
My wife and I would like to try sex toys. What would you recommend?
It's our first time trying anal sex - do you have any safety tips?
What's the difference between a "bottom" and a "sub"?
How can I find a partner who is as kinky as I am?
My wife has never had an orgasm from sex. What can I do to make that happen?
My partner and I are interested in trying some wax play. Do we need to use a certain type of candle?
My partner doesn't want me to masturbate. What should I do?
My partner and I talked about having a threesome, but she hasn't mentioned it since. What gives?
Where can a submissive and dominant go to play safely together?
I like being spanked but my partner is worried about hurting me. What should we do?
What is caning?
A bad breakup has made it hard for me to enjoy sex with other women. What gives?
I've had bad experiences with anal sex. Should I try again?
How can I learn to become a good master?
I feel no desire or arousal. What can I do to get my horniness back?
How do you "milk" a prostate?
How can I have more sex with my partner?
What is Shibari and how can I learn how to do it?
Can I still consider myself a feminist if I like a man to dominate me in bed?
The impact play products at our local sex shop are out of our price range. What can we do?
Ever since my partner had a baby, she doesn't want to have sex. What can I do?
What are Ben Wa balls?
I haven't had sex yet. How can I tell if I'm ready?
I've had a lot of sexual partners but my partner hasn't and is upset. What should I do?
I feel like I've lost my sex drive. What should I do?
How can my partner and I have simultaneous orgasms?
I want to have a threesome but I'm worried about how I look. Any advice?
How can I keep anal sex from getting messy?
What’s the best way to make a woman squirt?
Why do guys want a lover to swallow?

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