Sit back and relax, folks! It is time again to take a trip around the fascinating world of sex! We’re talking art, law, toys and identity. And, of course, #MasturbationMonth is still going strong (we trust many of you are, too). It is time for more Sex Stories We Love!

'Til Death Do Us Wank

There are lots of fairy tales associated with marriage and long-term relationships. Some might have the fairy tale wedding that is supposed to turn into the fairy tale coupling. This culminates in the presumption of a fairy tale sex life where the two of you continually satisfy and excite each other for ever and ever. And because you have this fantastic sex life, neither of you ever have any reason to masturbate, right? Well, people do seek personal pleasure even if they have the best relationship in the world. According to a recent piece in Psychology Today, there are many reasons people seek self-love instead of playing with their partners, but it is a completely normal activity. Expecting someone to not get jiggy with themselves is not fair. In fact, combining your desire to touch yourself with your partner can be super sexy. Mutual masturbation is a great way to write a new chapter in that fairy tale.

Goodbye, Old Friend

Let’s face it: pretty much nothing lasts forever. There are few products we buy that can literally last our lifetime. The only things I can think of that can come close are hammers; even those rugged tools can break. And while there are some folks who definitely get very attached to their hammers, I’m guessing folks are more likely to be much more heartbroken when another tool gives up the ghost. Because it really sucks when you come to the conclusion that your favorite sex toy has ridden its last raunchy rodeo. In Glamour this past week, Suzannah Weiss provided some tips on when it's time to part with an old sex toy. When you’ve had such great times with a toy, this can be a hard thing to do. But, if you notice any of the signs of wear and tear noted in the article, then it is time to move on to something new. We’re talking health and pleasure needs all rolled into one, so it is important. Look on the bright side - there are newer, better and higher quality sex toys coming out all the time. Mourn your loss, look forward to your future.

That Look

Our orgasms are some of our most intimate and vulnerable times. As the sensation builds, the excitement peaks and we reach the explosive release of pleasure, people experience different levels of loss of control. And one of the reactions we often have little power over is our orgasm face. Some folks smile, some looked pained. Some open their mouths, some can’t keep their eyes open at all. Just like our fingerprints, our O-faces are completely individual to our experiences of sexy release. Photographer Alina Oswald captures these unique slices of sexual time in her collection Moments and they are mesmerizing!

Al Fresco Adventures

In this part of the world, the weather is just starting to get warm, and I can’t help but think that our primal natures take over a bit and people get to jonesing for a little sex (including masturbation) in the rough. Outdoor frolicking has a significant appeal to many folks, but if you’re keen to get it on outside, be sure you look into the legalities of your area. A piece that appeared on Huffington Post Canada this past week speaks specifically to laws in Canada, so it isn’t universal. That puts the onus on you if you want to get horny outdoors - particularly if you are queer. Law enforcement agencies have often looked at gay public sex more harshly and frequently target gay men. Interesting how that wasn’t noted in this piece, particularly while citing a Toronto-based lawyer. This area has had numerous high-profile busts of gay men engaging in public sex. Be aware of the laws and history in your part of the world and play safe, friends.

Three Little Words?

"I love you" has got to be one of the most confused phrases in our current language. It's been both diminished in integrity and over-inflated in importance. These three words are construed as the mecca of all feelings, an anticipated expectation that somehow signifies a rite of passage into another state of mutual being. Or, according to a recent piece in Vice, "I love you" can be blurted out during sex (and other times) because of chemical reactions or societal brainwashing. When it comes to sex-related "love," I much prefer a different word and feeling: appreciation. If someone gives me a really hot blow job, I don’t love it or love that person more. I appreciate that act and I appreciate that they would play with me that way. This goes for a casual situation or a long-term relationship. Does it sound less sexy to moan out “I appreciate that?” Kinda depends who’s listening, right?

Switch It Up

Finally, top, bottom, or versatile - if you’re curious about trying something different, having a mentor like the incomparable Kevin Moroso to help you investigate your desires would definitely help!