This week’s Sex Stories We Love is like going out to a club and looking to meet someone new. There is much fun and adventure to be had, and some great people to meet. Yet, we still have to be aware that there are some challenges out there when we look for sex.

Rape Culture Persists

How in the world did this man NOT get convicted of sexual assault? Sure, he got busted for administering GHB (though at a lesser charge) twice to render someone known to him as a friend unconscious. Yet, it was also acknowledged that his victim woke up to find his hand in her underwear, touching her, while he was masturbating. Does his flagrant violation of another person’s body get excused because his family, his fiance, and his fiance’s family have his back? This is gross. This is stupefying. This is rape culture, folks.

Hard Day's Night

Okay, I’m going to admit that I feel a little bit of pride coming on...but really, should I be proud of this? I read this this post on people revealing the most number of times they’ve had sex in one day. I see four times, fives times, and even a six! That really is pretty impressive. Then my foolish bravado kicks in with...fourteen. This is not a humblebrag. Nor even a brag. That ridiculousness happened over 20 years ago. And at the time, it was more of a joke than anything. Hell, we went to fourteen because we got to thirteen and worried stopping there would be bad luck. And no, the sex wasn’t good after a certain point. Quality definitely trumps quantity.

Mama Said...

Now this is parenting done right! Sure, our folks should be teaching us how to cook, clean, do our finances, fix shit, and generally become adults so that when we head out into the world we are able to function and be good to ourselves and other people. Ideally, that should passing of knowledge should also include sex. And not just birds and bees and fundamentals. That’s basic. Parents could pass on the tips and tricks of sexual thrills and chills. That Anthony Anderson’s mom talked to not only him and his brothers, but also their friends is pretty damn amazing. We are not born knowing how to do the sexytimes, and, frankly, most of us need all the help we can get.

Dressed to Thrill

Somewhere along the way, lingerie got a bad name. Perhaps it was poor fashion design, perhaps it was an association with sex retail being pushed to the fringes of acceptable society. Lingerie has also been associated with performative aspects of sex, men determining what to dress their partners up in for their own sexual pleasure. The sexual power of lingerie was taken away from women. Fortunately, in recent times, lingerie is making a comeback for women. Stunning designs, mainstream acceptance, and an empowerment of women of women to wear lingerie because it make them feel good.

Thinking Straight on Sexuality

Sometimes we need to make certain and distinct clarification of language to truly understand a situation. In recent times, it has been recognized that people who are not heterosexual experience mental health issues at a higher rate than people who are heterosexual. However, recent research from the Australia National University clarified that it isn’t the fact that people are queer that causes the heightened instances of mental health problems, but rather the coexisting societal issues people have to deal with because of their sexuality. This distinction is important because non-heterosexual identities have long been considered deviant and linked to psychological disorders. The current language is just a more subtle call back when, really, the problem is the rest of society’s failure to understand.

Magical Masturbation

And finally, yes, we can all take a ride on a magical beast now with Unicorn Horn Dildos! Gentle reminder folks, if you use that suction cup base on your forehead, it will leave a mark.