Masturbation Month is in full swing. It's become one of the high holy months on the sexual calendar. It seems people really love to connect...when they're connecting with themselves. This week's Sex Stories We Love is all about the love that speaks your own name.

Having the Time of Our Lives

Let's take it back...for some of us, wayyyyy back. Do you remember your masturbation roots. Does anyone out there remember the first time they experienced self-love? Our personal masturbation histories can be a collection of sexy stories, exciting exploration, and coping through challenges. Some people discover the pleasure of touching themselves early in life while others do not. There are many different factors that influence our desires and abilities to engage our bodies in erotic touch. If we've learned one thing, it's that there is no single right way to masturbate. Would you be interested in considering your masturbation history as Adriana does in this great post on her blog Of Sex and Love? Could it inform and better your current sex life? Is it something you'd rather keep in the past?

Coming a Long Way

It's been more than 20 years since American Surgeon General Dr. Jocelyn Elders was fired for suggesting that masturbation be included in sex ed curriculum for students. Oh boy, the discussion of masturbation has come a long away. Sure, it can still be challenging. There are plenty of places where the thought of self-love evokes flames of damnation instead of flames of passion. Yet, the conversation has opened up in many ways. There has been a definite shift to the positive. What better way to demonstrate this than acknowledging some of the wild and awesome and ridiculous sex toys that are now available for solo sexploration. Superheroes, pizza deliveries, and emojies...oh my!

Not for Everyone

Let's take a moment to pause. Throughout Masturbation Month, we will see and hear all kinds of glorious reports on the joys of masturbation, the great benefits it has for our bodies and spirits, and the way it's helping our sexual culture. Let's always be cognizant of the fact that this cannot be taken as an absolute - nothing about sex can ever be. So, it's important to remember and recognize that not everyone masturbates. Ellen Scott shares her story and experience and it's a strong reminder that a collective goal of achieving a positive sexual culture embraces all experiences with sex.

Hands-On Biology

Masturbation is sometimes considered the simplest sex act that we can ever participate in. Apply hand/finger/toy/etc, touch until desired pleasure is achieved, and repeat if needed or wanted. Yet, that doesn't mean we don't have all kinds of questions or concerns about what the heck is happening to our bodies before, during, and after masturbation. Let's not forget that our bodies are complex machines. They can bring us great joy and confuse the hell out of us at the same time.

Keep It Clean

We recently discussed good ways to clean up after partnered sex. So, it stands to reason that we should take a moment to consider the various ways one might tidy up after a solo sexytime session. Now, depending on who you are, what your body is capable of, and the volume of what you can produce, the level of effort will vary. And, hey, whether you live alone or with others might matter, too. Personally speaking, some of these methods sound a little crude (seriously, the carpet?!), dangerous (a soda can?!), and even offensive (seagulling?). I guess the point is that we gotta clean up because no one wants a There's Something About Mary situation.

Ready...Set...Cum!

Finally, here's the real Olympics we'd love to see happen. Three guys, three toys...who is the fastest wanker?