I hope you don’t mind, we’re going to play a little game of “Have You Ever?” in this week’s Sex Stories We Love. Taking a drink to affirm your agreement is not necessary (though feel free if you wanna).

The Dirtiest Word in Relationships

Have you ever cheated on someone? Okay, that’s a wee bit bold of me to ask when we just connected here, but let’s think about it. Cheating, or infidelity, is a major theme in our portrayal and idealisation of relationships. There is this grand hope that humans are supposed to find that one and only who makes us happy for the rest of our lives. That person who knocks our socks off and makes us want to knock boots on an exclusive basis for the rest of our lives. Now, there are certainly many different social constructs from which this fairy tale comes. There are many folks who can, will, and do definitely revel in a long-term exclusive relationship—sexual and emotional. Then there are those who don’t want that and can’t fulfill that contract. Can we ever get to a point of honest consideration in relationships that allows for people of different connection capabilities?

Problems with Porn Privacy

Have you ever watched online porn? We’re really getting into it now. Maybe we’re actually in a secret speed dating situation. We’re not. But really, do you watch porn? And if you do, are you ever concerned that other people might find out that you watch porn? Recent happenings in the United States have people concerned about internet privacy, and rightly so. Congress recently voted to do away with legalities that would stop internet service providers (ISPs) from spreading the word about customers’ browsing habits, including, locations, apps, and more—and even selling that information. And this could become legal if President Trump signs it into law. If this affects you, will it change your porn viewing habits?

Sex with Ex Is Complex

Have you ever had sex with an ex? Are you a sexual superbeing who can do this on the regular without difficult ramifications for either of you? Or are you like the rest of us who are, more than likely, going to have a difficult time afterwards? Break-ups are, more often than not, a difficult thing to manage and, even more-so, get over. Maybe it’s that exclusive ideal we talked about earlier, but when we reach the stage of emotional attachment in a relationship, letting go can be a challenge—even when your ex has been downright awful to you. So, becoming intimate, whether that be on a physical or emotional level, with that person again can do all kinds of tricky things to you. Is tickling your bits worth wrenching your heart?

Sexually Transmitted Understanding

Have you ever shared an STD with a partner? I’ll admit, that’s the best I can come up with, in terms of how to word that question. I don’t like “spread” or transmitted. They seem cold, blaming, and overly medical. And reading Sarit Luban’s story was anything but. In reality, sexually transmitted diseases and infection are just a part of our sexual lives that have dangerously stigmatized. Yes, not acquiring STDs and STIs is probably the best thing for your health. Just like avoiding influenza, heart disease, and that 100 day cough that has been going around my office. Yet the stigma that is carried by sexual medical issues remains an unnecessary problem of shame and irresponsibility.

Going Down Solo

Have you ever tried to perform oral sex on yourself? If you have a penis, I’m going to go with ‘Yes.’ If you have a vulva, well, I’m not going to answer because I don’t have a vulva. Going back to the penis-folks, I’m still going to say that we’ve all at least considered it and those who of us who were gymnasts gave it a really good try. Because we all have a pretty good idea from an early age that mouth-on-genital pleasure is going to feel good. With advancing teledildonics and sexual app development, we’re looking at some truly astonishing sexual possibilities in the coming years. And hey, give thanks to intrepid sex writers who are testing these devices out for you. So, folks with vulvas, would you try this device out?

Nipple: Yea or Nay?

Finally, have you ever had your nipples played with? Did you love it? Did you hate it? Were you meh? Have you ever wondered what others thought of nipple play?