Some sexual situations and arrangements are uncomfortable and awkward for different folks, be it a penis parade, playing with friends, or judicial figures with outdated beliefs who don’t want to recognize sexual autonomy. It is a mixed bag of discomfort in this week’s Sex Stories We Love, with stories that range from cringe inducing to maddening. Let's take a look.

Another Consent Collapse

What is it with Canadian judges and appalling sexual assault statements? First there was Robin Camp, who berated a complainant with “Why couldn’t you just keep your knees together?” Now we can add "Clearly, a drunk can consent." Funny thing is, Canadian law seems to say that a drunk can’t consent. Even so, a taxi driver was acquitted of sexual assault by Justice Gregory Lenehan in Halifax this week based on the prosecution being unable to prove the passed out woman in the back of his cab didn’t provide consent before blacking out. There are several highly suspect aspects of the case that seem to point to significant wrongdoing, but because the victim didn’t state a definitive lack of consent in writing or video, there’s no way to prove she didn’t want it. Cases relating to sex and alcohol consumption and capacity are still a challenge because of he said/she said mentality. And that's despite the fact that only 2-4% of sexual assault claims are proven false.

What's a Friend For?

How do you like to spend time with your friends? Going out for coffee? Drinks on the town? Concerts or sports events? Getting off together via distance-connecting vibrators? I’m going to guess that not too many people are able to say that last option happens with great regularity. But this article from Vice looks at what happened when two best friends controlled each other's vibrators. We’re taught early on that sex is not part of the friend equation. Sex between friends can end in awkwardness, and can even cause an end to the friendship. This article explores what happened when two friends gave sexual exploration via remote-controlled vibrators a try.

Poly Mono Divide

It is always interesting to see a shift in sexual society make such strides that it starts to receive a bit of backlash on its forward momentum. These days, I find I can’t go one day without seeing an article about polyamory/open relationships/ethical non-monogamy or another related topic pass by. Part of me thinks this is great, but part of me also worries. So I read, and I see some opinions being expressed that are disturbing. Definitely, non-monogamous relationships need to be recognized, celebrated, and acknowledged. Yet, the belief that these relationships are somehow superior or more natural needs to stop. And a separation between poly and monogamous folks gets us nowhere. Different models for different folks. Both succeed and both fail.

Just Like Any Other Illness

Modern medicine has had such an impact on our lives - but can it help reduce sexual shame and stigma? Kevin Moroso makes a compelling comparison here between norovirus and syphilis, two afflictions he’s had and been treated for. However, discussing having the two of them would garner significantly different reactions because we still look at sexually transmitted infections with disdain. Of course, this really is ludicrous. Regardless of the type of interaction, we are humans. We touch, we kiss, we fuck. We also cough, laugh, sneeze, and come into contact with fluids and viruses all the time. All of these things, the fun ones and the annoying ones, are a part of life. Here’s to good health for all, and if there’s a speed bump along the way, to good treatment as well.

Penis Party

Many of us have surely heard about Japan’s famed penis festival, but it is usually depicted as all things sexual are: silly and obscene. Of course, that really isn’t the case and ‘Shinto Kanamara Matsuri’, or Festival of the Steel Phallus, is actually a very dynamic and rich event. Steeped in history and lore, the annual event celebrates many things relating to sex, while at the same time moving forward. The active inclusion of transgender people and festival's fundraising efforts for HIV/AIDS research shakes some of the commonly held ideas about conservative Japan. Plus, look at all of the photos of people enjoying cock lollipops! Tasty fun! If you’re looking to get in on it this year, start booking your travel and arrangements because it traditionally happens the first weekend in April.

Footie Fun

Finally, for those fellas out there who get all hot for feminine feet, check out these pedi-lovin’ sex positions.