May is Masturbation Month, and we're thrilled to be showcasing a brand, spanking new blog that's all about one our readers' favorite topics: squirting. Oh Gush is factual, relateable, fun and - for those of you with aspirations of ejaculation - inspirational! We asked Rose, the blogger behind Oh Gush our 10 questions. Enjoy!
Kinkly: Give us three words that describe your blog.
Rose: Female ejaculation & pussy positivity. (That’s four, I know – five if you include the ampersand. I cheated, whoops.)
Kinkly: What inspired you to start the blog?
Rose: The first time I experienced female ejaculation, I had no idea what was going on, or that it was a perfectly natural way for my pussy to react to sexual pleasure. I was actually quite freaked out.
At that point I’d never even heard of squirting – I hadn’t experienced it during sex before, or read about it anywhere, and no one around me was talking about it. I felt too ashamed to bring it up in conversation or ask any of my friends if they were experiencing it too.
There are a few great articles out there, including some fantastic ones by my fellow sex bloggers; some are also squirters, and promote awareness through sharing their experiences. However, practically all information online related to female ejaculation focuses on the debate of whether or not the fluid excreted is urine, or makes outlandish claims about how women can achieve female ejaculation or how men can "make their woman squirt."
Oh Gush was basically born out of my frustration that so much of what is written about female ejaculation doesn’t give any practical information, and isn’t told from the viewpoint of someone who actually experiences it. Squirting gets the majority of its exposure through porn, which generally isn’t an accurate or realistic portrayal.
Despite the fact it is a very real, normal and healthy phenomenon that many women experience, there is still a stigma associated with female ejaculation. It continues to be incorrectly labelled and dismissed as pee or sexual incontinence, and it is a highly under-researched area of sexual health.
I wanted to develop a platform to discuss squirting from the perspective of someone who experiences it as a part of their normal, everyday sex life. I wanted to share and discuss aspects of squirting that I hadn’t been able to find information about, such as Post Squirt Clean Up, my experience with Anorgasmia and how I came to terms with accepting, loving and adjusting to my sex life to accommodate it.
Kinkly: What’s behind the name?
Rose: I wanted a fun name that was a bit tongue in cheek, but also encapsulated the notion of female ejaculation.
The terms "squirting," "gushing" and "female ejaculation" are all used interchangeably, however the best description for me as an ejaculatory lady would be a "gusher."
When I orgasm and experience female ejaculation, I expel (or gush) a large volume of liquid, opposed to a trickle or small puddle.
It therefore seemed appropriate to include "gush" in the blog name.
Kinkly: Who’s your target reader?
Rose: Anyone with, or without, a vagina who is interested in sex and its magical workings.
While my target reader would most likely be women interested in squirting or pussy-positive topics, I also believe that if I were a man I’d still be interested in the discussions on the blog.
While the majority of my posts are concerned with one aspect of sexual function, I also cover a range of other topics, and rant about issues like feminine hygiene wash. I have a deep and serious revulsion to femwash. I loathe the fact that women are conned into thinking there is something wrong with the natural smell of their vaginas, and they should cover it up with a completely unnecessary so called "hygiene" product. Eugh.
Kinkly: What’s unique about your blog?
Rose: That is concentrates on an area of sexual heath that isn’t widely discussed, researched or even accepted as a natural and normal outcome of female sexual pleasure.
While squirting doesn’t happen to every woman, it is an amazing sexual marvel that happens to many at some point in their lifetime.
Female ejaculation is generally positioned as a novelty or unicorn experience. Much of what is written about it would have both women and men believing they are missing out, or haven’t reached a level of sexual expertise without it, which is unequivocally false. I hope to portray it from a very real and practical perspective, without any of that grandiose crap.
Kinkly: What is the topic you find yourself covering most often and why?
Rose: Well, obviously female ejaculation and for all the reasons I’ve mentioned above.
I also really enjoy talking about vaginas in general, and promoting the message of pussy positivity. I want all women to love and accept how truly incredible and unique each of theirs is. Vaginas (or more accurately vulvas) all look different and come in various shapes, sizes and colors, yet there is a real lack of varied representation in all forms of media.
In my Your Vagina is Beautiful post I share an amazing video of a group of women who had their vagina photographed, and then shown to both them and their partners. Their reactions are moving and beautiful to watch. That is the kind of positivity I hope to share with my audience.
Kinkly: What was your most popular post ever? Why do you think it drew so many readers?
Rose: The most popular of my posts has been the 3 Different Ways I’ve Squirted, in which I label and discuss the three types of female ejaculation I’ve experienced since I first discovered I was a squirter.
I think it drew as many readers as it did because it highlighted that there is more than one way in which female ejaculation can manifest, and that all forms are real and valid.
Kinkly: What’s the best thing about writing a sex blog?
Rose: Talking about sex!
Sex is one of most, if not the most, fascinating aspects of human life and I love having an outlet to discuss topics that I feel are important, yet not examined widely enough.
I also absolutely adore connecting with people via the blog, and social media. I love hearing from readers and feel honored when they share their personal experiences and stories with me.
Kinkly: What’s the worst thing about it?
Rose: Overcoming my own self-criticism. As I write about topics so close to my heart, I often feel extremely attached to my posts and am overly critical of them. I’ve been known to rewrite a post several times before I’m happy enough to I put it up on the site.
Also, only a few close friends know that I run Oh Gush and my straight-laced family are unaware. I occasionally feel I have to tell some fibs to account for my absence in the time I spend working on the blog, which I don’t like doing. I’m a terrible liar!
Kinkly: OK, now for the good stuff: Give us your best tip for great sex.
Rose: It might sound simplistic, but I believe relaxing, loving and being comfortable in your own skin is key. Before I grew to accept and love my body and its sexual response, I didn’t enjoy sex. I now love it, and am keen to get down anytime, anywhere, anyhow.
Also, make sure you’re having sex with someone who’s worth sharing your vagina with, and never forget that your sexual pleasure is equally as important as theirs.
You are beautiful, you should feel beautiful, and whomever you are having sex with should treat you like the fucking queen you are.
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