"I don’t know," I replied. "He's probably with one of his girlfriends ... he could come back any minute.".
He stared into my eyes and then kissed me. "Would you like to come to my room?" I asked, before leading him upstairs.
Before the night started, I had been very worried that the pressure to have sex at the end of the night would get to me, but what followed was some of the hottest sex I’ve ever had. To spice things up even further, we pretended that my "husband" could be back any minute. It seems so simple, but this little shift in reality allowed us to try things we had never done before - and it felt amazing! The strangest thing was that I found it really was like having sex with another person, but without any of that first-time awkwardness. The whole thing felt natural and sexy and ever so slightly wrong. Which, of course, made it even better. (Want some other ideas for spicing things up with your partner? Read 8 New Year's Resolutions for the Best Sex Ever.)
The Morning After
The next morning I felt great, if a little hung-over (we needed a bit of Dutch courage to loosen up!). What I’ve realized is great about this kind of role play is that you get to have all the thrills of an affair without any of the horrible consequences - or guilt. It also did wonders for our sex life even in the days leading up to our night of passion. We are now just a little bit closer, and we’re already planning to do it again!
What We Learned
How can you create the allure of a one-night stand with your long-term partner? I learned that it's important to think of the evening as a whole, not just your initial meeting and what you’re planning to do in the bedroom. If my fiancé and I had done that, maybe we would have been able to stay in character a little longer.
You should also go somewhere where you’re not going to be noticed - and where you won't be spotted by anyone you know. Also, if you’re worried you’re going giggle and ruin the illusion like we did, try meeting up and pretending you’re already in an established affair. The "getting to know you" questions you'd ask of a real stranger were too awkward for us. This would have allowed us to skip them and get to the dirty talk!
What He Said
I thought I should get the man's perspective on this too, so I asked my fiancé for his thoughts. Here's what he said:
"The thought of this made me surprisingly nervous because I’ve never been a picking-up-women-in-bars kind of a guy. However, after we had booked our hotel, I got more and more turned on just thinking about the naughtiness of it all! Once we’d gotten over the initial fact that we found the situation hilarious and we got back to the hotel bar, it felt a lot easier to slip into character.
I had decided beforehand to give myself a new name, but when it came down to it I just decided to be a more suave version of myself, as staying in character felt like it would be too hard! Once we hooked up in the bar and made our way to the bedroom, the sex was amazing. The prospect of Emma’s "husband" walking in on us added some danger and urgency. That turned me on even more.
It went so well I’m definitely looking forward to the next time we do it. I’m even thinking of setting up a Facebook account as my alias so that the affair can continue. Hopefully I can get Emma to drop her "husband" for another night of passion!"