Here are some things that people adore: puppies and kittens, a beautiful sunset, french fries and lists. People freakin' adore lists. Welcome to the latest installment of Sex Stories We Love: List Edition!

Making Masturbation Mainstream

One of the best times to create a sex list is when you've still got one free hand...particularly if that list is about masturbation! Self-love is, I firmly believe, one of the most essential activities humans can participate in. We learn so much about ourselves through masturbation: pleasure, comfort, experimentation, boundaries, and so much more. For too long, talking about personal pleasure was taboo and forbidden, which just makes no sense. We're fine with speaking freely about the food, wine, film, exercise, or dates we "indulged" in the previous night. Why not openly discuss the really good wank we also enjoyed? Thankfully, we're moving past the stigma around masturbation and eight great folks are now open and able to tell their titillating tales of self-sexytouch for others to learn from and revel in.

Sexy Celluloid

We're all familiar with, either through direct viewing or fantasy folklore, some of the great, sexy moments in film history. Not all are of everybody's taste, but they did definitely stir the sexual imagination when they came out. Think "9 1/2 Weeks," "Last Tango in Paris," "Mulholland Drive," "Caligula," and "Secretary." These films left an indelible mark on our viewing experiences with explosive portrayals of sex that definitely pushed the envelope. Well, those were all pretty mainstream films that got a lot of attention. Of course, there are many others that are sexy beyond belief that do not get the same notoriety. Have you watched any of these three cult movies with significant sex scenes? Have you at least heard of them? Pass the popcorn!

FWB AOK?

And when is one of the best times to turn on a hot flick? When you're having a little get together with your FWB, of course! Much has been made in recent years about the growing popularity of people who just get together for sex. Really, the idea has existed forever, but just like lists, people really love attaching a name to things. Fortunately, when an idea gets more popular, people also begin to understand that sometimes, we need some common etiquette around the behaviour. Now, if you've got a good FWB situation going on that both of you enjoy and get all you need from the arrangement, great! Maybe these 11 rules of being friends with benefits won't apply for you. However, given our social conditioning toward finding love, monogamy, and "the one," some folks do struggle with expectations and boundaries when they enter a sexually beneficial friendship. These rules are essential if you're considering it.

Whipping Sex Ed Into Shape

If you're at all interested in learning about sex, for yourself or in an educational context, you'll find that you can't click through three pages without someone claiming to be a sex educator giving you some kind of advice. That is one of the boon/busts of the explosion of open sexual conversation. Yes, we're hearing from a wide variety of voices we've never heard before. At the same time, we're also hearing from so many voices whose credentials to speak authoritatively are not entirely clear. That said, here is one tip I'll pass on: if you're looking up sexual advice and information and the author is noted as being a sex worker, consider that a very strong appointment of knowledge. Yes, there are many people who are qualified, but the voices of sex workers are very strong in credibility and compassion to sex. So, when you see that a Dominatrix is offering seven sex tips, make sure you take the time to read it.

On the Outs

One of the great ways to use lists to provide alternatives to ideas that are, otherwise, taken for granted as gospel. One perfect example in our world of sex is the idea that penetration is the pinnacle of sexual experience. Of course, there is a historical basis in that, you know, whole baby-making process. Yet we know that there are so many more reasons to have sex than just to create progeny. Sex is also for fun, pleasure, comfort, love, and passing the time.

Not everyone wants to participate in penetrative sex. Not everyone enjoys penetrative sex. Not everyone is able to have penetrative sex. So, it's great to see a list of seven ways to have great non-penetrative sex. Our many voices are being heard!

Paddle These Myths Out of Here!

Finally, the requisite list of sex myths some people still believe. This ain't a slight, but more of an indicator that better sex ed is needed. Dominatrices, some of your time, perhaps?