Because of this, you should be extra careful when it comes to security. If you are not using Bluetooth, for example, turn it off. If you are using it, make sure your connection is totally secure.The same goes with wi-fi. Don’t do anything over a less-than-secure network. Passwords, too, should be both complicated as well as changed regularly.
So play smart, play safe, and don’t ever assume that things are secure without first checking thoroughly that they are. Yes, it’s a drag, but it's much better than finding out someone has been electronically eavesdropping on your sex life.
Reach Out and Control Someone
So now you have your state-of-the-art sex toy and you’re ready to use it for some high tech kinky play…now what? More than likely, the first thing to do is think about what kinky play is without the device. Then think about how you can use it to maybe make it even better.
One of the key elements of BDSM is the concept of sexual control: the relinquishing of it to someone else or the accepting of it from a consensual submissive, This is all pretty easy to do when you’re in the same room with one another. What if you’re not? With smart sextoys, a dominant can both monitor their submissive’s pleasure by accessing a toy’s usage. They could even remotely control it.
Imagine this scenario: the dominant allows the submissive to pleasure themselves, but not orgasm. By keeping tabs on when and how much the sex toy is used, they can then reward or punish them by altering the toy’s settings. Couple this with high tech supervision through video chat (some apps have built-in messaging capability,) and you have just about the perfect set of tools for a long-distance BDSM relationship.
If it is part of your power dynamic, you could even add in smartwatches or FitBits, so the dominant could monitor not just their submissive’s arousal, but also their health and guide them to being healthier through kinky rewards and punishments.
Sexual Recordings
Similarly, the dominant could create a special set of vibrations and then share this with the submissive to be played back through the toy as a reward when they’ve been especially obedient or just when the dominant wants to turn them on (quite literally).
A submissive, too, could record a session of sensations with a toy as a gift to their dominant: a sexual offering that could then be laid at the feet of their dominant as an act of worship or contrition when they mess up.
Not Just Buzzing and Vibrating
As the technology expands, there is the real possibility that in just a few years, we’ll be able to add all kinds of new capabilities to IoT devices. After all, we can already do things like play music, control the lights, adjust the thermostat, or see who's at the front door. It’s not that much of a stretch to envision being able to deliver punishing (though physically safe) electric shocks to misbehaving submissives using a remote control set up like the MyStim Cluster Buster.
Outside of sex toys, you can use tech to create a form of digital bondage that could consensually lock a submissive out of social media or even access an actual cookie jar with the right to browse Instagram or have a nice chocolate chip treat granted when they behave themselves.
Wearable Pleasure
Have you discovered the joy of wearable sex toys? This is tech that is totally non-obtrusive and worn under your clothing. It doesn’t take a kinky futurist to see the potential in these kinds of things. Submissives could have their sexuality, or even other aspects of their lives, in the control of their dominants not just in the bedroom, but anywhere and everywhere else: tickling arousals through high-tech underwear when they have been good or mild electric shocks when they aren’t. The We-Vibe Bond is a worn like a cock ring that delivers pleasing vibrations right from the base of the shaft. It can be controlled remotely for edging or paired with the Moxie Panty Vibe for some mutual pleasure. Looking even farther forward, we are seeing the fast approach of smart fabrics. The possible delights seem endless!
So What’s Next?
Indeed, living in the future truly is amazing, and while there are some serious things to keep in mind when we use this new technology to enhance our kinky play, the benefits far outweigh the risks.
And what’s even better about the future is that it keeps on coming. In the next few years we’ll see even more astounding ways that technology will change the face of sex.
Yet, no matter what comes, human beings will no doubt still love to be turned on, or turn someone else on--with or without electronic assistance.
