Kinkly Gift Guide: Our Top Picks for Sex Toy Novices

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A sex toy may not be the right gift for everyone on your list, but when you connect the right sex toy with the right person it can be magical (even if that person is you.)

OK, so we'll be the first to admit that a sex toy isn't the best gift for everyone on your list. But, if you feel like stepping into a little magical thinking, wouldn't it be cool if it were? We're often quick to get squicked out by the idea of anyone but our object of affection getting off, but orgasms are fun, healthy and make people happy. In fact, a really good sex toy can help people find that happy place again and again and again which, let's face it, is a lot more fun than another Christmas sweater.

Got someone special on your list you'd like to help get off? Here is our list of top sex toy gifts for 2017. Oh, and if you have a shy partner or one who is inexperienced with sex toys, consider discussing this gift before giving it - or going going shopping together. Although we think sex toys can help enhance any sexual relationship (and are fun all on their own!), they're only fun if everyone's on board. (Need a few tips on how to get it right? Check out The Ultimate Guide to Buying Sex Toys for Other People.)

Oh - and we've also included a few fascinating reads that'll help you better understand and improve your sex life. Enjoy!

Come as You Are: The Surprising New Science That Will Transform Your Sex Life

This fascinating book explore how women's sexuality works based on brain science. If you're seeking a more satisfying sex life, you may not be surprised to learn that the pursuit extends far beyond your genitals. Author Emily Nagoski shows you where to look for it.

Come as You Are by Emily Nagoski

Vibrator Nation: How Feminist Sex-Toy Stores Changed the Business of Pleasure by Lynn Comella

This brand-new book digs into the pioneering feminist entrepreneurs who launched a sex toy movement based around sex education, safety and taking pride in self-pleasure. It's a must for every feminist's reading list.

Vibrator Nation by Lynn Comella

Sex With the Lights On: 200 Illuminating Sex Question Answered

Sex educator Ducky Doolittle often provides advice on Pick up her book for a more in-depth read.

Sex With the Lights On by Ducky Doolittle

Sportsheets Midnight Lace Blindfold

A blindfold is the ultimate tool to amp things up in the bedroom. This soft, sexy cover helps heighten other senses and keep your partner guessing.


The LELO SONA and SONA Cruise are the latest in LELO's line of luxury sex toys, but they provide something completely different: deep clitoral stimulation via sonic waves. It promises bigger, better, deeper orgasms - and it really delivers (just read the reviews).

Liberator Wedge

The Liberator Wedge looks simple, but don't be deceived: it is known in the industry as the ultimate sex furniture item.

b-Vibe Snug Plug 1

Interest in anal play is blowing up, but the key is to ensure that your first exploits are both safe and pleasurable. This plug is small, smooth and made by b-Vibe, the veritable experts in toys for your butt.

Sola Egg Massager Passion Set

This vibrator looks different because it is different. Deep, rumbling vibration combined with pressure-sensitive technology (it vibrates harder as you press it to your body) and three different heads make this a top pick for those who are new to sex toys. This vibrator is well designed, powerful and customizable. (It also helped one of Kinkly's reviewers have her very first orgasm.)

Magic Wand Rechargeable by Vibratex

This super-powered sex toy won our Reader's Choice Award for sex toys and was selected as our very first Sex Toy of the Month. It is one of the oldest, most powerful, most respected and most recognized sex toys around. Only this version is the latest and greatest - it's gone cordless!

SenseMax SenseVibe Warm

This beautiful, modern vibe is a sleek update to more traditional rabbit-style vibrators, one that offers a whole slew of slick modern features your partner will love. It also heats up to body temperature to keep things nice and toasty! With eight vibrating modes, 18 speeds and a flexible "yoga" neck to help you hit just the right spot, this vibe is a great pick for someone looking for dual stimulation. It's also easy to control and use. It's the ultimate in quality and luxury.

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