Edge Your Way to Orgasm
Edging is when you tease your partner with oral sex, hand sex, penetrative sex, a sex toy etc. right up until they’re about to orgasm, only to stop right before they come. Then, you start the whole sexual arousal cycle over again once they’ve cooled down.
It’s one of the most frustrating, incredible experiences ever. Once you finally do go over the edge and give into that release, the orgasm is insanely intense from all the buildup. It’s a difficult practice, but with some effort, it can be mastered.
You can get some tips on how to do that here.
Sensory play is a highly erotic way to up the ante on orgasm and all of your sexual senses. Instead of going right into genital touching or skin-on-skin contact, start with exploring your partner’s body.
If you’ve never tried it before, there are simple ways to give it a go. Use a T-shirt and place it over your partner’s eyes. Grab a (clean) feather duster and run is gently over their body. Pay attention to erogenous zones likes the nipples and inner thighs.
Take breaks for passionate kisses, but don’t let them touch you (or themselves). Alternatively, you can grab an ice cube from the freezer and run it over their skin.
It will leave them wanting more. And they’ll get it … eventually.
A slightly more aggressive form of sensory play than feathers or ice, spanking is a great way to get your partner’s body on edge before orgasm. Pain and pleasure activate the same area of the brain, meaning they are closely linked.
A sharp slap on the butt or back of the thighs can light up your partner’s brain and skin, making them more susceptible to the pleasurable touch that follows.
If you’re curious about how to properly spank someone, click here for a guide.
Orgasm deprivation is a bit like edging in that you build up pleasure without allowing for orgasmic release. Some experts would say they’re synonymous, and in some cases they can be. With edging, you literally are depriving someone of orgasm. Get it?
But, as a coach, I prefer to keep the terms separate in that orgasm deprivation can last DAYS. This is a big one and it isn’t for the faint of heart. You and your partner have to be truly committed to waiting for the release. Work up to nearly orgasming every night (or morning, afternoon, whenever) for a few days.
Once you’ve sufficiently tortured yourself, allow yourselves to orgasm on whichever night you’ve designated as the final showdown. This is not for everyone, but if you can pull it off, it’s ridiculously hot.
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