How do you navigate communication and relationship if you're a highly sensitive person and the other person isn't?
How do you navigate communication and relationship if you're a highly sensitive person, and the other person isn't?
For starters, I would say that you're on the right track already being in touch with yourself and knowing what you need. If you know that you're a sensitive person, that's information that you can give someone that you're dating or someone you're in relationship with. I think a lot of people get into trouble because they don't know themselves that well, and they don't know what they need, so they don't know what to ask for. If you know what you need, you can talk to a partner and say, “Here are the kinds of communication that work really well for me, and here are things that will really hurt my feelings.” And somebody who is right for you is going to be willing to hear that information and communicate with you in the ways that work the best for you.
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Written by Stella Harris
Stella Harris is such a nerd about communication that she wrote a book about it - "Tongue Tied: Untangling Communication in Sex, Kink, and Relationships". As a Certified Intimacy Educator and Sex Coach, she uses a variety of tools to guide and empower her clients and she teaches everything from pleasure anatomy, to communication skills, to kink and BDSM. Stella teaches at venues and conferences across the country (and Canada!) most recently appearing at ConvergeCon in Vancouver, B.C., Dark Odyssey: Surrender in San Francisco, Kinky Kollege in Chicago, and Reed College in her adopted hometown of Portland, Oregon. In addition to her upcoming book, Stella has been busy writing her sex column for the Willamette Week, Humptown!
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