How can I check in with my partner after a group experience and make sure we're feeling grounded in our relationship?

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How can I check in with my partner after a group experience and make sure we're feeling grounded in our relationship?

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After any kind of threesome or group play, it's really important to find a way to have a check-in with your partner. For some people, that means you spend the night together just the two of you. Sometimes it means you touch base again the next day. But find some way to really validate each other, reiterate the things that you like or love about the other person, make it clear that you enjoy the sex if it's just the two of you also, and make it clear that it's not about comparison or replacing your partner with someone else. These experiences are a fun thing you can all do together and they can be really valuable, but it's not because you don't like just being with your partner.

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Stella Harris is such a nerd about communication that she wrote a book about it - "Tongue Tied: Untangling Communication in Sex, Kink, and Relationships". As a Certified Intimacy Educator and Sex Coach, she uses a variety of tools to guide and empower her clients and she teaches everything from pleasure anatomy, to communication skills, to kink and BDSM. Stella teaches at venues and conferences across the country (and Canada!) most recently appearing at ConvergeCon in Vancouver, B.C., Dark Odyssey: Surrender in San Francisco, Kinky Kollege in Chicago, and Reed College in her adopted hometown of Portland, Oregon. In addition to her upcoming book, Stella has been busy writing her sex column for the Willamette Week, Humptown!

Learn more at www.stellaharris.net or follow @stellaerotica on Twitter or @stellaharriserotica on Instagram.

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