Masochism is a term used to describe the tendency to find pain and discomfort sexually stimulating. It is common in BDSM, and actually stands for the M in BDSM. Most masochists may enjoy physically painful activities such as being flogged, spanked, whipped, and caned. However, some masochists may also enjoy emotional pain such as being humiliated or insulted.
Introducing masochistic elements into the bedroom can be a bit intimidating at first especially if your partner is somewhat resistant to causing you pain. The key is to start slowly and work your way up from there. For instance, have your partner lightly spank you first before they move on to using more painful methods such as caning or flogging. For safety reasons, you and your partner should also learn the proper way to use tools like whips and canes before incorporating them into the bedroom. Also, you and your partner should set limits and establish a safe word before playing.
