Sensual domination is a style of dominance and submission (D/s) which focuses on delighting all the senses. Sensual dominance celebrates pleasure over pain. It does not involve violence, aggression, or humiliation, unlike some forms of D/s. It is often seen as soft or mild dominance.
Many of a sensual dominant's tools are ones vanilla couples use when to dabble in BDSM, such as blindfolds, oils, ropes, ice cubes, and feathers. The Dominant may lightly bind their submissive’s hands or feet to restrict their movements. They may also use mental bondage, simply telling their partner to stay still even though they are not physically restrained.
They may rub oils into the submissive’s skin, move ice cubes across their body, or trail feathers across them. They may compliment their submissive, using a gentle voice or whispers. They may blindfold them to remove the submissive’s sense of sight and heighten other senses, such as touch, hearing, and taste. Sensual dominance may also involve role-play and foot or shoe worship. It may or may not include sexual intercourse.
The Dominant treats the submissive with reverence and praise, rather than humiliating them. While there may be some mild pain, through the use of nipple clamps and soft floggers, for example, it is never the focus of sensual dominance. Any pain should complement the pleasure rather than push the submissive’s limits.
Sensual dominance can help couples experience greater sensual freedom and intimacy. Sharing and setting limits together can be thrilling. So can controlling another person’s sexual pleasure, or submitting to another person and receiving pleasure for it. Sensual domination can also help people discover new turn-ons and sexual possibilities.
As with other forms of D/s, a couple practicing sensual dominance may have defined roles, with one person typically being dominant and the other submissive person giving up control. Alternatively, both people may agree to take turns assuming and giving up control so they can both enjoy different aspects of sexual pleasure.
Despite refraining from many common D/s methods, a sensual dominant still aims to bring their submissive partner to subspace. As it’s easier for a submissive partner shift out of pain than pleasure, sensual dominance often results in a longer period of subspace.