More About Ruined Orgasms
You may hear the term ruined orgasm referring to instances of sexual pleasure being wrecked accidentally. It is bound to happen on occasion. However, if your partner talks of being into ruined orgasm, it most likely means they would like to try orgasm control as either the top or bottom. And when it comes to ruined orgasm, it is imperative that all partners are on the same page!
Consent to participate in a ruined orgasm scene is imperative. Orgasm can be very intimate and meaningful to people, and to have one ruined by surprise, on purpose, can be confusing. Discuss your interests clearly before you enjoy this type of scene.
Navigating a successful ruined orgasm scene may not be as easy as it sounds. There are many ways to bring a person to orgasm, but to successfully stop them from reaching that peak without going over might take some practice.
In your talk beforehand, the bottom should discuss safe words or physical signals that will indicate they’re close to coming. This will help the top be ready to stop or subvert the pleasure at the perfect time. Stop too soon, and it might just feel like edging...stop too late, and the bottom might actually experience a full orgasm.
There are various ways the dominant can ruin their partner’s orgasm. The primary technique is to cease stimulation abruptly or slow down significantly. By pulling their hand, mouth, toy, or body away, the submissive will be left there, hung out to dry.
If it fits into the dom/sub dynamic, the dom can also slap or punish their partner’s genitals or squeeze to an agreed-upon level of discomfort. Some folks may also want to add verbal humiliation or degradation at the moment of stopping to heighten the ruining mood further.
After the scene has concluded, it is good to engage in thoughtful aftercare and check to ensure everyone’s expectations were met or if there is room for improvement.