What is Post-Orgasm Torture? - Definition from Kinkly

Post-Orgasm Torture

Updated: MAY 2, 2023

on March 16, 2022

Post-orgasm torture describes the uncomfortable and sometimes painful stimulation of the genitals and other erogenous areas immediately following orgasm. For many people, the vulva, clitoris, labia, vagina, penis, anus, scrotum and perineum can be very sensitive immediately after an orgasm. Some people do not want these parts touched in the moments after climax. For those who do, it is possible to achieve a very powerful and intense orgasm through this method, although it also involves facing discomfort and ceding control.

How is post-orgasm torture done?

Post-orgasm torture may involve stimulation with hands, mouth, feet, penis, vulva, other body parts, sex toys and more. Bondage can also be incorporated into the scene to ensure the person being tortured cannot stop their torturer. Note that, despite the use of the word torture, the recipient of post-orgasm torture is engaging in a consensual act.

Anyone, regardless of gender or sexuality, can be the recipient of post-orgasm torture or the person doing the torturing. Post-orgasm torture is also a form of control or power play, where one person exerts sexual control over another person.

This type of dominant/submissive scene may or may not involve other BDSM or control-related aspects, or the players may just desire the moments after orgasm to be the focus. Some people may sustain this post-orgasm period and torture, continuing stimulation until the discomfort abates and the person being tortured is ready to continue sexual activity.

Mistress Mona, a Dominatrix based in Philadelphia, says that “post-orgasm torture is taking advantage of somebody’s genitals after orgasm. For example, after someone with a clitoris cums, pinching the clit, to cause this pain, instead of pleasure. It’ll feel particularly sensitive because they just had an orgasm.”

How many people are into this kink?

A 2015 survey of 1,580 female-identifying people within the kink community found that about 28% of the women had experienced breast torture, and 16% had had genital torture performed on them. Overall, about 50% reported being involved in either breast or genital torture in some capacity, whether they were receiving, doing, or observing the activity.

Post-orgasm torture is also commonly found in pornography, where the drama and intensity of these scenes lend themselves well to filming. Post-orgasm torture has also generated a genre of memes, which include images of characters in some sort of sensory overload with the caption "nutted but she still suckin'."

What are some of the things to be aware of with post-orgasm torture?

As this type of play does involve discomfort and potential pain, the submissive should share a safeword or physical action that indicates the dominant should stop. There might be a fine line between not enough and too much, and everyone involved should be aware at all times.

Because the body is already in a state of heightened sensitivity, post-orgasm torture overstimulates the whole body and reactions can be quick and involuntary. It puts the torturer in a position of power and makes the "victim" feel vulnerable as they lose control over the body; this may lend itself to a sense of humiliation as well.

Many people restrain their partner during post-orgasm torture, either with their body, ropes, cuffs, or other devices. This is best done before orgasm to ensure post-orgasm torture can occur immediately.

When post-orgasm torture is performed on a person with a penis, it’s best to focus on the sensitive head of the penis or glans. The torture will be most effective if it occurs while the person is still erect. Cock rings or cock bondage can help sustain the erection after ejaculation.

For a person with a vulva, post-orgasm torture involving stimulation of the clitoris works best. While the fluids that occur during sex and orgasm can help lubricate the body, using additional lubricant for post-orgasm torture can increase sensation. Wand massagers are a popular option for post-orgasm torture of the clitoris.

Another use of post-orgasm torture may be as a punishment for premature ejaculation or even as part of a game. If your partner comes too quickly, or before you, post-orgasm torture can be used in conjunction with other physical punishment or verbal degradation or humiliation to heighten the experience.

How can I enjoy this kink safely?

It is important to practice ongoing consent during torture play. Prior to performing post-orgasm torture, a conversation should take place between sexual partners where they discuss if this is something all parties want. If it is, continual check-ins are still a good idea. For example, while the person being tortured is reaching their climax, their partner can state what they are about to do in the form of a question. i.e. “Do you want me to pinch your clit?” If the aroused person answers with an enthusiastic yes or physically helps do it, then it's the partner’s sign to continue with the post-orgasm torture. In torture play specifically, negotiating ongoing consent is crucial; as in all sexual practices and kinky scenarios, consent can be given, withheld, or changed at any time. All parties involved must be prepared to respect that.

In terms of aftercare, after someone experiences post-orgasm torture, it's a good idea to check in on them and their pain levels. If there are punctures of the skin or bleeding, that is something that needs to be addressed. If there is a serious injury requiring medical attention, that is important to acknowledge and seek the necessary care. If the pain is pleasurable and the person feels good, aftercare can look similar to when someone has kinky or non-kinky sex. Partners can ask each other what they need in the moment. It could be a hug, a kiss, a longing gaze, or a massage.