One of the most commonly depicted options is with rope -- and despite how complicated it looks, the Frogtie bondage position only requires fluency with a single tie: a double-column tie. Simply tie on two of those double-column ties, and you'll be set! This makes rope one of the most affordable ways to explore the Frogtie bondage position.
However, rope isn't the only option. With the popularity of the tie, many bondage manufacturers now make bondage gear specifically to make this tie come to life. Two thigh cuffs and two ankle cuffs can be bound to one another to instantly make the Frogtie bondage position.
Before enjoying the Frogtie bondage position, we recommend warming up the lower body with stretches that honor your body. Pulling the ankles back to the thighs with the thighs spread can be a deep stretch on a cold body. We promise: nobody wants to deal with leg cramps in the middle of their scene! The Butterfly stretching pose is a hip opener that mimics a lot of the body placement of the Frogtie bondage position.
If the Frogtie bondage position is on your wishlist and if hip mobility is a concern, careful and regular stretching may help make the Frogtie position a better fit for your body.
Those with knee concerns, sensitivity to pressure and tight hips may find that the Frogtie bondage position is uncomfortable or even a poor fit for their body. People with larger thighs and calves may also find it difficult to touch the ankles to the back of the thighs. However, touching the ankles to the back of the thighs is not a requirement for the Frogtie position. Make the position less strenuous by adding space between the ankles and the thigh via excess rope, a tether, or multiple clips. This still maintains the delicious feeling of bondage while simultaneously reducing the strain on the knees.
Don't forget about the magic of bolsters and props as well. You can use sex furniture, like Liberator Wedges, propped underneath each upper thigh to help support the thighs in a more upright position to reduce the hip stretch. You could also use a stack of pillows or anything else that will be soft and comfortable enough for the thighs to rest against it for long periods of time.
If it's more comfortable, you may also consider a half-Frogtie: Do a Frogtie to one leg and leave the other leg laying out straight. Not only can this adapt the tie to honor a previous injury, but it also reduces the stretch on the hips to make this Frogtie variation more accessible.
Be careful when adding additional bondage to someone in the Frogtie position while they're seated. Depending on their mobility and the angle of their hip joints, being placed into the Frogtie position can leave someone balancing on their sit bones. If you add additional wrist or arm bondage into the position, the bound person will be unable to brace themselves if they fall over -- which can easily lead to a head injury. If adding any additional bondage, consider placing the bound partner in the center of a large bed to cushion their fall if they happen to tip. You may also consider placing their back against a sturdy wall or providing other ways for them to stabilize themselves.
If balance is a concern, you may also consider placing the bound person on their back for this position. There are no rules saying that Frogtie must be done seated!
Remember to check in regularly with the bound person in the Frogtie bondage position. This position can put a lot of pressure on the knees, core, and hip flexors in order to maintain the position, and it's likely that the bound person's muscles will begin to tire. If you want to maintain the feeling of bondage, the Frogtie bondage position can help transition into the Spread Eagle bondage position with the help of a few external bondage points (or an Under-the-Bed Restraint system. This maintains access between the thighs while allowing the bound person to stretch out their overworked muscles.
If intercourse is on the menu, avoid tying the bound person's arms behind their back. This way, the bound person can be carefully lowered to lay onto their back for intercourse. We recommend the penetrating partner stand upright, forming a 90-degree angle, to achieve intercourse (like in the Mermaid position). Missionary position may be extremely uncomfortable for the receiver as the penetrating partner's bodyweight may cause the hips to stretch out past the point of comfort.
Depending on the bound person's flexibility and strength, they can also be placed face-down in a pseudo-doggy-style position to facilitate intercourse.
If you have any disabilities that result in spasms or pain when pressure is applied, like those with Cerebral Palsy or Multiple Sclerosis, we recommend having a long conversation about what that looks like and feels like prior to engaging in this position. We know that controlled pain in BDSM helps a lot of disabled folks divert the chronic pain they feel, so perhaps Frogtie bondage is something you want to try.
We also feel it is important to have a discussion about sexual ableism prior to attempting this position if you are engaging in it with a disabled partner because, if you are using Frogtie bondage on a disabled partner, this could bring up issues of them feeling more disabled, and a power imbalance may be felt, so it is better to have that conversation.
