The Pole Bondage position is an upright, immobilizing bondage sex position that can leave the bound partner feeling deliciously at their partner's mercy. This position takes advantage of any vertical pole or column you have around the house.
To get into this position, the soon-to-be-bound partner stands up against the vertical pole/column you've chosen. The unbound partner then wraps their bondage implement of choice around the person and the structure. As many (or as few!) wraps can be added as desired. Care should be taken to avoid joints (like the elbows or knees), and no wraps should be made around the neck or face. The wraps should be snug, but they should not be cutting into skin.
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With full-body restraint, it can be easy to see the appeal of the Pole Bondage position. The bound partner is left feeling "helpless" and "vulnerable" to the unbound partner's advances. For many, this is a potent erotic fantasy with many variations and options for how it can play out.
Safety in the Pole Bondage Position
It's extremely important that both partners have a long, detailed negotiation before engaging in the Pole Bondage position. Be sure to talk about accessibility, pain and comfort levels. It may also be important to talk openly about the inaccessibility of this sexual position, especially if you experience disability as a wheelchair user. This open discussion can help ensure that both partners have an amazing time - and reduce the need to stop mid-scene due to problems. Your discussion should cover where the bondage is placed, how tight the bondage is and what activities the bound partner is (and isn't!) interested in doing while bound.
Remember: Communication is key while engaging in bondage. Constantly check in with your bound partner while binding them to ensure the bindings are snug - but not tight. As the bound partner wiggles and moves during the scene, you may need to tighten or loosen bonds. In a vertical bondage position like Pole Bondage, as opposed to horizontal bondage positions, your bindings can move with the force of gravity. A good rule of thumb is to ensure you can still fit one to two fingers between the restraint and the bound person's body part. Establish safe words or signals and always be prepared to immediately untie the bound partner the second they don't want to be restrained.
While the illustration shows the bound person wearing a gag and with their wrists individually bound behind their back, we recommend leaving those out until you've had a few practice sessions with the Pole Bondage position. A gag can make it hard to communicate, and the wrists have sensitive nerve endings that can easily be harmed by too-tight bondage. Especially with everything going on during the scene, it can be hard to pay the required attention to the wrists to keep them safe! Don't worry: The Pole Bondage still feels deliciously restrictive and all-encompassing without those two features.
If you choose to use the mouth gag, ensure you and your partner have a non-verbal safeword. This may be difficult with the full-body bondage design of the Pole Bondage position. Holding a squeaky toy or placing a large, noisy object on the floor for the bound person to kick may be your best options. Especially as the two of you get into the scene, it may be hard to distinguish between good "mmmmf!" and bad "mmmmf!", so make sure you both have an easy way to communicate if a discussion (without the gag!) is needed.
The biggest challenge for most people will be finding a good structure on which to do the Pole Bondage position. A tall, comfortable beam is not easily available in most homes. Many people may find their easiest option in the form of a wooden beam in their basement; depending on how finished your basement is, this can add to the bondage ambience for your scene. With a bit of creativity, you could also do a compact version of the Pole Bondage position on a sturdy stairway banister. Stripper poles or sturdy outdoor trees are also options.
While the Pole Bondage position is shown with a slender pole, it can be done with a large, stand-alone object of any shape. Thick, square columns are common as weight-bearing columns in some homes. Just make sure your bondage choice is sturdy and comfortable for the bound partner.
Ways to Enjoy the Pole Bondage Position
It can be handy to think of the Pole Bondage like an upright mummification position. It offers many of the same benefits, but the bound person is standing. Just like a horizontal mummification, you can modify how restrictive - or loose - the bondage experience is by adding or removing extra straps. For a simple version of the Pole Bondage position, just wrap one wrap just under the nipples and a second wrap around the mid-point of the thighs. This can help keep the bound person restrained without the feeling of full-body immobilization that can come from adding extra straps.
Overall, the world is your oyster when it comes to choosing your bondage restraints for the Pole Bondage sex position. While the illustration uses bondage tape, bondage rope, belts or nylon straps can all work for this sex position. As the knees are likely to feel weak as the bound partner receives pleasure (or pain!), we highly recommend adding extra straps around the chest to help keep the bound partner safely (and comfortably!) upright.
You may also have to take your pole's material into account. Rope bondage may slide down on a metal dance pole, but it may not have the same issue with a column with an attached shelf. The tiny fibers of natural fiber bondage rope may leave uncomfortable hairs on a silicone dance pole, but you may not mind it at all if you're using a tree for this.
While intercourse may be appetizing after playing with the Pole Bondage position, this position isn't a safe option for penetrative sex. It would likely be hard (or impossible!) for most bound partners to spread their legs wide enough to make it possible, and even if an angle is achieved, the constant movement of thrusting will slide the restraints down into unintended spots. If you want to involve sexual activity in the Pole Bondage position, consider using hands and sex toys to pleasure the receiving partner. Slender vibrators (like the FemmeFunn Dioni, the Satisfyer Top Secret+ or the We-Vibe Melt) or penis strokers (like the Tenga Eggs, the B Swish BHandy or the VeDO Hot Rod) will be able to pleasure the receiver without disturbing their binds.
If you'd like to transition to penetration, we recommend the We-Vibe, Crotch Lift, Ballet Dancer, Standing Missionary or Lustful Leg position.
You may also want to cover different "vibes" for the scene. Is the bound person a prisoner being held until they release a secret location? Is the bound person being kept as a pleasure submissive? Is the bound person so valuable to the Top that the Top keeps them restrained for their own health and safety? There are a lot of themes you can explore within the Pole Bondage position, and it can make for some amazing roleplay opportunities!
The Pole Bondage position also offers a lot of opportunities for unique experiences and sensations - just make sure to negotiate them ahead-of-time! The bound partner may be "forced" to watch while their partner masturbates with no way to get enjoyment or participate. The bound partner may be put under "torture" by an electrosex toy like a Neon Wand until they give up a secret. The bound partner may simply be "tortured" by a wand massager or penis vibrator for the sake of orgasm torture. A pair of vampire gloves can also be worn by the Top to provide delicious, scratching sensations that get the bound partner wiggling!
