Welcome to a sex position that transitions perfectly from massage to intercourse and even comes with bonus bondage!
To get into the Bondage Massage position, the receiving partner lays face down on a flat surface. Ankle cuffs and wrist cuffs can then be wrapped around their limbs. The penetrating partner then straddles the receiving partner's upper thighs, facing their back, to slide inside for penetration.
The Bondage Massage position is a workhorse of a sex position. Not only does it make for simple intercourse, but it also lends itself well to a before-intercourse massage which can be a great way for couples to relax into the experience. It may also be good for partners who are disabled and want to have a simple, easy, sexy experience.
Consider using the Bondage Massage position sans cuffs to begin. Start with a massage and lead into sexual territory. Add to the sexual tension by adding a bit of bondage with wrist or ankle cuffs. The position lends itself well to penetration without the receiving partner needing to lift a finger.
There are so many things you can experiment with in the Bondage Massage position to really make it your own. Include bondage or leave it out, use the positioning for intercourse or enjoy some outercourse instead or skip the sex all-together and simply have a "forced massage" that the receiver gets to enjoy after a long week.
This sex position is made possible, as pictured, by the magic of the Liberator Bondi. The foldable bondage board offers 16 different bondage points and works on any flat surface (whether that's inside or outside of your house).
The Bondage Massage can also be done without the Liberator Bondi, as long as you take a creative approach. Add an Under-the-Bed Restraint System to enjoy the Bondage Massage on a mattress or employ cuffs with tethers to do this bondage sex position on a sturdy massage table.
Thanks to the relaxed position, the Bondage Massage lends itself well to couples of many heights, sizes, and abilities. This position is fabulous for a receiving partner that uses a wheelchair, a partner dealing with chronic pain, and people recovering from injuries that don't want to strain themselves. This low-stakes sex position is a good fit for people looking for intimacy with little to no movement.
That being said, if any part of the Bondage Massage position doesn't honor the bodies you're in today, feel free to modify or change it. It may be that this sex position isn't a good fit for the two of you, and that's okay too. There are thousands of other sex positions you can rely on instead (and our database makes it easy to find them).
While it can be tempting to start by straddling the hips, note that the Bondage Massage position has the penetrating partner straddling the upper thighs, just beneath the curve of the butt. There's more space to work there and it reduces the pressure on the receiving partner. Be sure to add some lower back support, like a pillow under the stomach, if you're trying this position on something soft like a bed. Experiment with the exact straddle position to find what feels best for both of you and what achieves the best intercourse or massage.
While the Bondage Massage lends itself well to penetration, it certainly doesn't have to include it. This position is a fantastic choice for couples who are avoiding penetration and disabled folks who can’t engage in penetration. Placing a sex toy beneath the receiving partner's hips (like the Wild Flower Enby 2, Rocks-Off Ruby Glow or the Orion VibePad 2) can provide instant sensation -- especially as the movements of the (not-so) penetrating partner causes their body to grind against it.
The top partner can get full grinding movements against the soft, welcoming butt and thighs of the laying partner without penetration. Whether the top partner has a penis or clitoris, grinding what's between their legs against the laying partner's butt can be very orgasmic! We do recommend wearing underwear or other clothing if penetration is off the table, however.
Even if sexual contact is off the table, the Bondage Massage can still be used as a bondage massage position. There's no need for sexual contact to be involved at all. The giving partner's position straddling the hips can make for better leverage for working out knots all along the body including the ability to put some pressure behind any deep tissue work. Be sure to have a discussion with your partners about pressure points or pain points. Many people with disabilities and chronic pain have a higher sensitivity to touch, so talk about that before you start.
As a final note, remember that your choice of slickening agents make a difference when penetration is on the table! For some vagina-owning receiving partners, oil-based lubricants (like massage oil) is a no-no as it promotes infections. If penetration into a vagina is on the table from the get-go, make sure to select a water-based lubricant for the massage portion. If penetration is more spontaneous, the penetrating partner should wash their hands, use a towel or wet wipes to clean up around the vaginal area and swap to a water-based lubricant to assist in penetration.
