While not as commonly considered as a
strap-on harness around the hips, a strap-on
harness on the thighs offers a lot of great benefits.
For one, especially if the harness wearer owns a
vulva, the hip movement required for penetration with a
thigh harness might feel unfamiliar and uncomfortable. Most people are much more familiar with moving their legs and thighs which can make for a more comfortable experience - and more leverage and power for thrusting.
For another, especially for
larger bodied individuals, the receiving partner may be unable to straddle the penetrating partner's hips. If that's the case, moving the strap-on harness to a smaller area
(like the thigh in Mesmerthighs) allows for easier and more comfortable straddling.
A thigh strap-on harness also moves all of the body weight and movement away from the vulva or
penis area. Especially for those sensitive to pubic bruising or
testicle pain during
strap-on sex, moving all of the action away from those areas reducing the discomfort of
strap-on sex - and allows for just the pleasure!
Finally, the Mesmerthighs position leaves all of the genitals of the penetrating partner open for business and easy to access. If this is something you're both comfortable with, the riding partner can easily see
(and touch!) the penetrating partner's genitals to provide pleasure - and the penetrating partner's hands are free to do it themselves if they'd like as well. With the space available, almost all
sex toys can be used on either partner including powerful options like
wand massagers,
penis vibrators, or
air suction toys.
This can help both partners achieve the powerful orgasms they want - and can even be a great sex position to help achieve
simultaneous orgasms (if you're into that!)
While the Mesmerthighs sex position is great in itself, one of the benefits of using a thigh strap-on harness is the ability to see more of the action. To easily add that into the Mesmerthighs position, have the penetrating partner sit up - or prop
pillows or
sex furniture underneath their upper body in order to make it easier to watch the action.
With the
strap-on harness worn around the thighs, the Mesmerthighs position lends itself well to couples of any size. The additional space between bodies makes it comfortable for larger bodies to get into this position, and the simple, familiar "partner on top" configuration of this position makes it accessible for many couples. As the penetrating partner is laying down, this differences in height don't matter - which can make this extremely accessible for pegging couples where the receiver may be taller. This
sex position can also be a great fit for
third trimester pregnancies where a larger belly may make other on-top positions difficult.
The only limiting factor here may be the availability of thigh harness sizes. While the industry is slowly expanding, options for very large thighs are still hard to come by. The
Sportsheets Dual Penetration Thigh Harness goes up to a 32" thigh while the
Sportsheets Thigh Strap On goes up to a 22" thigh. Whether you're on a tight budget or simply can't find a dildo harness in your size, there's also a simple way to
tie a dildo thigh harness with rope bondage as well.
Selection of the
dildo for the Mesmerthighs can be important. As penetration may be deeper than in other
strap-on sex positions, make sure to select a
dildo that doesn't press too deeply into the receiver.
Penis limiters - like the
OhNut - may help reduce depth if the
dildo is too long, but with the full receiver's body weight pressing down, it won't be as helpful as in other positions.
On the bright side, since you're using a
strap-on harness, it's simple to swap out the
dildos if you find out your current option is too long; simply pull out the current
dildo and push in a new one!
