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The binding spoon position a penetrative sex position where both partners lay on their sides with the receiving partner being penetrated from behind. A variant of spooning, the binding spoon position adds different levels of touch and sensation according to where each partner places their arms and legs. We understand that this position may be difficult to fully achieve if either partner has disabilities and or chronic pain.
In the binding spoon, the receiving partner lifts their top leg and holds it up or wraps it back around the penetrating partner’s body. They can then move their own top leg forward between their partner’s open legs. Only do this as you are able! From here, both lovers can reach their arms around the other’s body to provide touch and additional stimulation. Because the binding spoon position offers so much skin-to-skin contact, it is considered very intimate even though the partners cannot easily look each other in the eyes.
Penetration can be achieved with either a penis or strap-on dildo making the binding spoon position useful for people of all sexual identities. Because of the comfort and ease of spoon positions, they are quite successful for both vaginal and anal penetration. If it is easier simply to spoon, that is okay too.
By having the receiving partner wrap their top leg around their partner’s body, both can use their legs and arms to hold each other more closely and potentially thrust together more forcefully. Partners can also use their hands to provide manual stimulation to the receiving partner’s nipples, clitoris, anus, or penis. Depending on how tall each partner is, and how long their arms are, it is also possible that the receiving partner may be able to reach and touch the penetrating partner’s buttocks or even their anus for additional sensations.
Sex toys are an excellent addition to the binding spoon position, particularly for the receiving partner. A vibrator (like the Satisfyer Endless Fun) can be introduced for clitoral and nipple stimulation. If the receiver is being penetrated vaginally, a butt plug can be added for a double penetration experience. A discussion about comfort and disability access needs is highly recommended before attempting this (and every!) position.
The binding spoon position is a sexy and athletic take on the spoon position that can be used for vaginal or anal sex. In this sex position, the partner being penetrated lifts one leg, or even lifts and wraps the top leg behind the penetrating partner. The receiving partner can also wrap their top arm around the penetrating partner to help draw the partners even closer together.
The binding spoon position leaves the front of the receiving partner's body open for additional kinds of play. In the image below, the penetrating partner is using the Satisfyer Endless Fun to stimulate both the receiving partner's nipples. The penetrating partner could also use a toy in this position to stimulate the receiving partner's clitoris or penis.
One of the distinct advantages of the different spooning sex positions is that they are generally relaxed, more accessible sex positions. They are fantastic for those who wake up in a mood, among nice warm bodies wrapped in blankets, and want to start their day with some sexy fun. They are also really great for people who live with chronic pain and/or disabilities. A simple spoon position is nice and close and easy with less movement and would be a great way to fall back asleep when you’re done and if you don’t have to get up for the day. A simple spoon position is also perfect for people with disabilities who wake up and are in a mood, but are unable to engage in a lot of physical movement. The binding spoon position is a bit more athletic and possibly more aggressive making it better for those who wake up in a mood and ready to rock! Be sure to assess whether the binding spoon position is an appropriate and accessible option for your play if you are disabled.
Because the binding spoon position makes so much more of the bodies—particularly the receiver’s—available for stimulation, it is ideal for adding toys and BDSM elements of play. A wand vibrator is an excellent addition for reaching around and providing additional clitoral sensation. A penis sleeve can be added during anal penetration. Nipple clamps with chains can be attached to both partners and possibly even be attached to each other to take advantage of spontaneous sensations caused by movement.
The binding sex position is also a great way to add some intimate hand-based BDSM types of play. This position is ideal for disabled people whose most accessible body parts is the hands. While the close quarters of this position may make it challenging to introduce bondage or impact tools, there are ways each partner can use their hands to bring the sweet pleasure of pain into this position. Because each partner has a hand roaming free, acts such as spanking, scratching, nipple torture, choking, and more can be added to penetration. Or you can focus solely on hand play if penetrative play is inaccessible to you as a result of disability and/or chronic illnesses. However, because you aren’t facing each other, it is important to establish safe words and sexy accessibility needs beforehand and to check in with your partner throughout to ensure continued consent and pleasure from these harder acts
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