The SexSmith

Got kink? The SexSmith writes a blog about sex and relationships based on letters written to Dear SexSmith. Each response is crafted with humor and genuine care. Get the advice you need to keep your sex life sizzling.

Q&A by The SexSmith

How can I spice things up with my long-time lover? How can I spice things up with my long-time lover? How can I spice things up with my long-time lover? How can I spice things up with my long-time lover?


Boredom is the most common reason to need new stimulation in the bedroom. Assuming that you want to stay with the object of your lessened...

Can this strap-on loving lesbian learn to compromise? Can this strap-on loving lesbian learn to compromise? Can this strap-on loving lesbian learn to compromise? Can this strap-on loving lesbian learn to compromise?


You raise large issues in a short space. You write that you love your girl, and want to find a solution. If it is your sincere desire to...

Can I learn to love my own gender? Can I learn to love my own gender? Can I learn to love my own gender? Can I learn to love my own gender?


It is with compassion that I tell you that trading men for women because you find men to be a problem is merely like trading geometry for...