If you’re open to sexual exploration, here are nine toys designed with partnered play in mind.
Sex is terrific, and even better when you bring the right tools to the bedroom. I’m a big fan of partner sex – with both penises and vaginas – but sometimes, sex can benefit from a tech assist. Penetrative sex, solely with a penis, doesn’t always do it for me. Like a lot of vulva-havers, I need clitoral stimulation in conjunction with cock. Ditto if I’m being fucked with a strap-on. If a partner has the almighty combination of dick, tongue, and/or digital talents and can make pleasure happen, that’s amazing. Still, even if they’re skilled in the sack, sex toys can be a great addition to foreplay or the perfect addition to take partner sex and intimacy over the top.
From remote toys to vibrating cock rings, these toys bring couples together. If you’re open to sexual exploration, here are nine toys designed with partnered play in mind.
Satisfyer Pro 4 Couples
OK, this toy meshes the best of all penetrative sex worlds. It’s basically a U-shaped vibe that provides hands-free clitoral suction with PIV-friendly internal stimulation. It features 10 vibrational settings so you can go as hard, fast, or slow as you’d like. Take a penis out of the equation, and it’s a satisfying sex toy to use solo.
Dame Eva II
Dame Products’ original Eva was a PIV gamechanger for me. Sure, it took some finagling to figure out how to best situate its flexible wings. But once I got it in place, I was able to get off from penetrative sex with a penis – and zero clit stim. The Eva II is a smaller, lighter and sexier model that works similar stealth clitoral magic in all its totally waterproof glory.
This sex toy is the gold standard for this type of device. The adjustable toy stays in place as it tickles both the G-Spot and the clitoris. Play either with the remote or free We-Connect app. Sure, the Sync is tons of fun during in-person partner sex, but it’s just as hot when operated from afar.
Pipedream Fantasy C-Ringz Ultimate Rabbit Ring
I’m a big fan of cock rings, and vibrating versions can add an extra layer of fun to fucking. This rabbit-inspired ring has a removable bullet, so it’s super cute and easy to clean. Vibrations from the ears are surprisingly strong, delivering a steady stream of pleasure to either a clit or the testicles, depending on how you wear it.
LELO TIANI 2
This partnered vibe is pure magic for partner sex. It’s designed to be worn in the vagina, and its SenseMotion technology allows a partner to control sensations during sex.
b-Vibe Trio Plug
For beginners to butt play, this is my go-to plug. I love its medium size and nine vibrating patterns. Even more so, I love that it can be worn everywhere from the bedroom to the bar – and controlled by partner via wireless remote.
Maude Burn Massage Candle No.1
Few things turn me on more than giving a partner a sensual massage. This body-safe massage oil smells much like a campfire (aka, my happy place). Either light it like a candle to set the mood, or pour the amber, cedar leaf, lemongrass, tonka bean and Medjool date scented oil on your lover’s skin. Developed with a master scent house in Brooklyn, this oil is a pure aromatic delight.
CalExotics Silicone Remote Pleasure Ring
As soon as I slid this stretchy ring on my partner’s penis, he got rock hard. I liked how easy it was to control; he loved the variety of 12 settings and the toy's memory function that recalls the last setting used.
JOPEN Amour Remote Bullet
At first, I thought the design of this bullet was kind of silly, but it grew on me and is actually perfect for Valentine’s Day. Its grenade-like design fit snugly in my vagina, and I enjoyed handing over control to my partner, who toggled between 7 functions and 5 speeds. Bonus: It’s waterproof and a sexy addition to bath time.