Do you know why some Doms wants to be addressed as “Sir” and others as “Master?”

Q: Hi - I’m new to this lifestyle. Do you know why some Doms wants to be addressed as "Sir" and others want to be addressed as "Master?" Is there a different meaning between these two titles or something?

A: As I stated in my answer to a previous similar question, What is the difference between and a bottom and a sub? ,the titles that people choose to adopt within kink relationships are usually very personal to them.

Titles are not always an indicator of the type of relationship(s) they are in. As a result, I recommend that you always ask people that you are interested in why they have adopted a certain label or title and what it means to them. It is best not to assume that there is anything more to the title than personal comfort with it.

However, in the case of "Master" and "Sir" it is often the case that the title of "Master" is more often adopted within the Master/slave dynamic. The title of "Sir" is more common within a Dom/sub dynamic. This is not a hard and fast rule. There are many other titles that people choose to adopt such as "Daddy" and "Lord." It is also worth noting that even though a title might seems to indicate gender, that is not always the case. There are females who adopt the title of "Sir" or "Daddy."

Just like the titles themselves, what these words mean to any given person or relationship can greatly differ. There are no absolute rules. Hence my advice to talk to people about their preferences so that you can get the best understanding of what it means to the person. After all, these are human relationships. Just as no two marriages will be exactly the same, no two kink relationships are the same.

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Molly Moore is a writer, blogger, photographer and public speaker and whilst juggling all this she is also a mother and wife. She lives in the U.K. with her husband, whom she had especially imported from the United States, in a full time D/s relationship. She is the writer of the award winning sex blog Molly's Daily Kiss. 

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