What's the difference between a "bottom" and a "sub"?
I have been doing a lot of reading about d/s relationships and play and have found that some people call themselves "submissive" while others use the term "bottom." I am confused. Can you tell me what the difference is?
A "submissive," on the other hand, tends to be someone that embodies a role of submission within a relationship dynamic, either full-time or part-time, depending on what has been negotiated between the people involved. Unlike a bottom, who mainly plays a receiving role in sexual interactions and scenes, a submissive may approach their label as signifying a more psychologically complex, 24/7 commitment. In exploring a d/s lifestyle, a submissive may agree upon certain rules and structures, with their dominant partner(s). Submissive and dominant roles can, of course, be inhabited by the same person, although it is quite common for one to prefer a particular role over the other.
As with all labels and terminology, these are only fairly broad definitions and everyone has their own (slightly different) take on what these words mean to them. Therefore I always recommend that you take time to talk to those you are interested in exploring these terms with, to find out where they stand and what "bottom" or "sub" means to them.