Ever since my partner had a baby, she doesn't want to have sex. What can I do?
Ever since the baby, my girl hasn’t wanted to have sex as much. She always claims she has so much to do, and then is too tired afterwards. I feel like we never get time to have sex, and that I’m not important. She puts everything else first. Shouldn’t I be important too?
Have you expressed to her how the lack of time spent as a couple is effecting you? Not by simply asking for sex, but expressing to your girl that you miss time with her as a couple? Have you asked her how she feels about returning to the sexual parts of your relationship?
One way to begin getting intimate again might be to go out on a date, and to gently suggest that the two of you could work on re-introducing intimacy into your lives. Find ways to meet her halfway on this issue as well. Are you expecting only penetrative sex, or are you willing to try alternative ways to work back up to traditional sex? If her body is still healing, perhaps you two could try sensate focus as an option. Essentially, sensate focus begins by the two of you being together and touching each other in areas other than genitals/traditional sex spots and working back over time to penetrative sex. (Get more tips in I feel like I've lost my sex drive. What should I do?)
If stress and fatigue are an issue for your partner, you could also try offering to help her around the house or with the baby to reduce the load she carries so that she can create more time for you. You could also hire a babysitter to give you both some stress-free alone time.
If this has been going on for awhile, and you are past the initial healing phase, then maybe it is time to suggest she also return to her doctor. There could be biological concerns that need to be addressed. Maybe her hormone levels haven’t returned to "normal". She may also need to see someone about postpartum depression, or even just talk to someone about how to balance her new role in life with her relationship.