Can I still consider myself a feminist if I like a man to dominate me in bed?
The other thought I have about your question in this: if you behave dominantly, independently, and through a feminist, gender equality perspective in everyday life throughout all situations, isn’t this really like a mini vacation from yourself? You obviously feel safe enough with your partner to relinquish your interpretation of control by allowing him/her to be the dominant one (even though we’ve established otherwise). Perhaps that safety translates to you being open enough to express and explore more vulnerable parts of yourself with this person. You feel free enough to be all of you with this person. All of you happens to enjoy being dominated. The release of control you perceive is like stepping outside of yourself for a break for a little while and allowing someone else to drive the proverbial car.