Truth: There's No Such Thing as a Slut

In this day and age, it amazes me that women are still shamed for being sexual beings. Um, hello?! We’re human! We have desires and fantasies and needs, damn it, just like men! So how is it that we're living in a society where women have fought for the right to vote, for equality in the workplace, and for the freedom of choice when it comes to our bodies, but we're still living in the Victorian era when it comes to female sexuality?

Shame, Shame, Shame!

Slut, whore, tramp, easy; these are just some of the words used to describe a woman who enjoys sex. Yet it’s perfectly acceptable for a man to behave in the same way and he’s deemed a lady’s man, a player, a pimp. Double standards irritate the hell out of me, especially when it comes to the sexual exploits of men and women. Rather than shame each other for openly enjoying something we all know is a natural human act, we should be encouraging each other to be sex positive!

Sex Isn’t a Dirty Word

As a society, we send mixed messages: using sex to sell your product or business is acceptable, but a female who openly enjoys sex, now that’s just sinful! We live in a highly sexualized society and yet, as women, we are told that it’s wrong to be sexual beings; we’re told we shouldn’t think about - let alone talk about - sex.

Listen up people, especially women: Sex isn’t a dirty word. If you enjoy sex, sex toys, sexy lingerie, group sex, solo sex, porn, swinging, stripping, or any other sexual act then have at it! You shouldn’t feel like enjoying sex has to be your dirty little secret. Openly embrace your sexuality as a woman and as a human being. It’s not wrong, it’s not sinful, it’s not dirty…it’s natural!

The Truth: There’s No Such Thing as a Slut!

I’m a word nerd, so I had to look up the etymology of the word ‘slut.’ I discovered that the word originated in the 1400s and one definition of the word was, “A dirty, slovenly, or untidy woman.” However, the modern sense of the word originated in 1966 when the word ‘slut’ became defined as a “woman who enjoys sex in a degree considered shamefully excessive.” 1966? Wait a second! Weren’t the '60s the time of the American sexual revolution? Who decides how much sex is "excessive" and worse, "shamefully excessive?"

Being called a slut is painful. I know. Yet, why are we (and by we I mean women) so focused on this one word? We choose clothes based on what makes or doesn’t make us look ‘slutty.’ We wonder to ourselves (or to our girlfriends), “If I sleep with him too soon, will he think I’m a slut?” Who decides what is and isn’t slutty or what behavior constitutes being a slut?

Let’s face it - there's no such thing as a slut! This new movement of turning sluts into a special interest group who need to be protected from slut-shaming is just utterly ridiculous. The word slut is used to tear down women and to shame them for doing what is perfectly natural and human - having sex. It doesn’t matter if it was one guy (or girl) she had sex with or 25; people will still call her a slut if they don’t agree with her behavior, don’t like her, or simply because they are jealous.