G-Spot Hunting: How to Find It ... and Its Elusive Orgasm

Have you heard of the Grafenberg spot? Maybe you've heard it under its more-popular name: the g-spot? The Grafenberg Spot gets a lot of press for its pleasure potential - and it can become a stress-point for a lot of people who feel frustrated that they haven't been able to discover this feel-good spot on their body.

You might love the g-spot, you might end up hating it, but at the very least, you should give this spot a try at some point. That's what we're here for: to help you and your g-spot sex toy on your hunting mission.

Where Is the G-Spot?

Unlike a lot of pleasure spots (like the external clitoris, the penis, nipples, and more!), the g-spot is located internally. Inside the vagina to be exact - and it's not very easy to see. It can be just as difficult to find - it's challenging to reach your own!

In fact, there has even been some controversy over if there even is a g-spot, although now it is recognized as part of the internal clitoral complex. A specific g-spot roadmap is included below, but essentially, be prepared for some vaginal pleasure in order to hit that g-spot!

(Do you know what other erogenous zone is similar to the g-spot? It's the prostate! Also known as the "p-spot", the prostate can be found inside the butt of people who have a penis.)

How Do I Find the G-Spot?

Turns out, finding the g-spot is a little more complicated than just finding the clitoris - or finding the penis. Hidden from view, it takes a bit more trial and error to locate the g-spot - but the end "results" can really make it worth your while!

So let's explore some pretty simple steps for locating your g-spot:

Step 1: Get Yourself Warmed Up

Especially if you haven't found the g-spot yet, the first step is to be really, really aroused. A lot of things engorge with blood when you're really turned on - and the g-spot tissue is essentially one of them. This engorgement can make the g-spot feel even more pleasurable - and more practically, it makes it much easier to "find".

What "aroused" means is different to everybody, but I know I don't find a ton of g-spot pleasure until at least a half-an-hour of regular physical stimulation. To make the sensation drive me entirely wild, it's generally at least an hour. It's certainly easier said than done to make time for an hour of pleasure even before my "intended" event, but it's always worth it in the end for me.

Step 2: Get Yourself a Sex Toy

Now, we're not just here to sell you on things you don't need, but for g-spot stimulation, almost everyone needs a sex toy. Turns out, hitting the g-spot on your own - with just your hands - is really, really difficult. The g-spot is all up in there towards the belly button inside the vagina. While some people can definitely pretzel themselves enough to hit their g-spot with their own fingers, it's rarely very comfortable - and rarely very sustainable for long periods of time. If your g-spot is even deeper, it might be near-impossible.

That's why a sex toy designed for g-spot pleasure like the Hot Octopuss Kurve is super essential. Sure, it actually does a fantastic job of pleasing the g-spot (which is what we want!), but most importantly, it allows you to easily reach the g-spot in the first place. No awkward pretzeling, no exhausted forearms, none of that business. So having a sex toy designed to hit the g-spot allows you to really hit the g-spot spot - easily! - in the first place.

You're free to try self-stimulation of the g-spot without a sex toy, but we think you'll find that having a dedicated g-spot sex toy is really going to improve your experience. (And please don't try to replace a dedicated g-spot sex toy with any old household item! Only body-safe sex toys should be inserted inside you or your partner!)

Step 3: Find That Spot!

Next up is locating the g-spot. Once you're aroused and have your pleasure tools, you have to "find" the g-spot. This can be frustrating if you're a goal-oriented person, so I find it easier to think of this as a fun, self-exploration activity.

How often do you get to explore uncharted territory - on your own body?! Most of us love exploring a new restaurant. Why not take that same excitement to explore your own body and pleasure centers? You might enjoy this dessert even more than a chocolate mousse cake!

To find the g-spot, insert your fingers or toy into the vagina (which should be all nicely turned on!) with any curved tips towards the belly button - whichever way that's facing. Most g-spot toys will zone right into the spot with zero effort, but if you're using fingers, you might have to experiment with deeper and straighter finger angles.

If you're having problems locating your g-spot, I recommend experimenting with the depth and angle of your sex toy. Push your g-spot vibrator even deeper - or pull it even shallower. While experimenting with depth, experiment with the angle of the vibrator.

Try pushing the base of your g-spot sex toy not "in" - but down or up: towards your tailbone or pulling it towards the front of your body. By changing the angle of the base, you change the angle of the tip, and a bit more pressure on the tip might be exactly what helps you find your g-spot.

If you're using your fingers, you're looking for a part of the vagina that feels a bit different than the rest of the surrounding tissue. It'll feel a bit more puffy - and rougher and less "ribbed" than a lot of the tissue around it. It's about the size of a walnut, so it's not a huge spot, and it's easy to miss if you're still new to finding it - or if you aren't aroused. Since the g-spot really makes its best appearance in a really aroused state, it's really easiest to find when you're desperate for more sexual stimulation.

Some people's g-spot is relatively close to the entrance (those lucky ducks!) while other peope's g-spot is located pretty deep into the vagina - and may be impossible to hit with fingers alone.

Step 4: Go to Town on That Baby

if you've found the g-spot, it's time to pleasure it! If you're used to pleasuring the vaginal entrance and the clitoris, you might be in for a bit of surprise here. The g-spot prefers different types of sensation! (Well, maybe that isn't a surprise. Everything couldn't be too easy, could it?)

Read: 5 Ways to Use a G-Spot Vibrator (That Have Nothing to Do With Your G-Spot)

How to Pleasure the G-Spot?

Once you've located the g-spot, we're going to assume your goal is to get pleasure from it. Hopefully, you've found a bit of pleasure from the process of finding the g-spot. But now that you've found it, you probably want to milk even more pleasure from this erogenous zone. But...how?