So...will Buffalo experience a baby boom at the end of next summer? I sure hope those folks are finding creative ways to keep warm; and by creative, I mean sexy!

Our Sexual Fantasies...Revealed

Maybe people in Buffalo will be spending all kinds of time cuddled up and feel some of those "romantic emotions" that can be so important during a sexual relationship. Maybe others are getting into BDSM, filming themselves, or trying out watersports...really they could be doing anything! According to a new study of the Top 55 Most Common Sex Fantasies, our spectrum of sexual interest is wide and varied. Some fantasies, such as having sex in an unusual place, rank high for men and women. While other fantasies are specifically a man thing ("being masturbated by an unknown person") or a woman thing ("having sex with more than three people, both men and women"). Note that man and woman were not defined here and there is no mention of the gender spectrum. Sexuality was considered, however, so that is a start. I have to admit, this is the first such study I recall that includes "romantic emotions" and I am a little surprised it ranks so high. Have I gotten too cold to think romance isn’t much of a fantasy?

The Most Difficult Talk (Trigger Warning: Child Sexualization and Abuse)

I honestly cannot think of a sex-related topic that scares the hell out of society more than children and sex. Whether it be adults and children, children and children, predatory behavior, or sexual experimentation, any mention of children and sex in the same sentence will most often send shivers down the spine. So when Lena Dunham revealed the sexual experimentation she initiated with her younger sister, society made a collective gasp and then held its breath. Without exhaling, opinions were thrown back and forth as to whether she was just curious or a sexual abuser. It was a difficult conversation with no consensus. This interview of a man who was jailed as a 12 year-old for inappropriately touching his sister takes that conversation another step forward. It gets even harder. Josh Gravens makes some controversial statements here, but it is a worthwhile read.

Giving Sex Toys a Good Home

Congratulations to everybody’s favourite snarky sex toy maven, Epiphora, on her purchase of a house! Finding just the right place to feel good about your work, comfortable in your space, and a closet big enough for 400+ sex products had to be a challenge. So, I’m glad to hear she’s settling in nicely.

That might not have been the biggest challenge. I can’t even imagine the scrutiny she must have received going to banks and realtors with her finances being tied to sex-related work. Banks are closing the accounts of porn performers just because they are in the adult industry. It is a testament to Epiphora's careful bookkeeping and open approach that ensured her successful purchase. Sadly, I imagine it could very easily have gone bad. Discrimination against sex work is still high. Hopefully good, positive stories like this will help people get past the stigma of sex work.

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Ain’t Nothin’ Weird Here

Meeting people is hard. Meeting people with whom you share common interests can be harder. If you're a Furry, meeting people who are also Furries can be downright challenging. Good thing there’s a dating site for that!

However, the funny thing about this list of "Weirdest" dating sites is that not too many are all that weird. Sure, sites devoted to Furries or Death Workers needing dates are a little off the beaten track. Yet, in this time of exciting sexual exploration and acceptance, are we at all surprised there are sites for athletes, artists, and intellectuals? We know now that people all have different needs and desires. We are fortunate there are ways to connect with those who share similar needs and desires. Deeming any of this weird is irresponsible. Especially when you can’t even spell "Weiredest" in the title.

What We Do In Secret

Wouldn’t it be lovely to live in a world where jerkin’ off didn’t have all kinds of stigma attached to it? While the tales in this collection of masturbation horror stories are sometimes pretty funny—most share a common theme: getting caught. Somehow in our world, touching ourselves for pleasure has become the ultimate gotcha. It is ingrained in us that someone walking in or hearing or just knowing that we fondle our fun bits is enough to bring shame to both the wanker and the watcher. Yet, if we go to the gym and feel good, we can tell anyone. Read a great book? Spill the story! Did you eat a great lunch? Take a picture of it and tell everyone on every social media portal available! However, if you enjoy a good, solo orgasm then zip that lip and hope nobody knows.

Warm Feet, Warm Heart

Surely, this is the story that might be relevant to a city covered in six feet of snow. Women are more likely to reach orgasm by wearing socks. Maybe it is because they have a sock fetish...maybe it is because they want to hide unmanicured toes. Maybe it is just because keeping her feet warm will keep her warm and more comfortable.

We often forget comfort when it comes to sex. Media often portrays sex as a race to nudity (or curious sexual attire), the ripping of clothes, slamming down on a hard table, and challenging positions. All of that can be and is hot—at times. The rest of the time we drop our clothes in a hamper, slip under a big blanket, and start the fun times from there. Sometimes it is out of necessity, but most of the time it is because we want to enter sexy times with feelings of care and consideration.