Last month, we put out a call for our readers to nominate the best, brightest, bravest sex bloggers they knew. The bloggers who made them think. Who made them laugh. Who made them try new things. Who helped them discover things about sex and their bodies. Who helped them grow up. Who helped them age more gracefully.
Sex bloggers really do these things for a lot of people. They’re writing words that most people can’t even bear to utter to themselves, never mind in a public forum. That’s why they’re our superheroes. And in only our second year of running the Sex Blogging Superhero contest, what we’ve seen amazes us. In just one little year, your blogs have gotten better. We saw even more amazing blogs and more evidence that bloggers all over the world are jumping in and adding to the discussion. The conversation is getting bigger and better and broader all the time.
This year, we looked for great writers who blogged honestly and often. Writers who spoke to their readers in a way that was passionate, and educational and, above all, sex positive. And then we combined our internal scores with readers’ votes to come up with a final tally. We know that not everyone will be happy with the results. You’ll think that some bloggers should be ranked higher and some should be lower and maybe some shouldn’t be on the list at all. We hear ya. Ranking is a difficult business. After all, all of the Sex Blogging Superheroes of 2014 are awesome in their own, unique way. Heck, a lot of the blogs that didn’t make the list are awesome too (we waded through more than 250 of them, people, we know what we’re talking about!)
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We’ve also heard some comments about the negative effects of competition and of pitting bloggers against each other. We thought about that. But we see the purpose of this list a bit differently. After all, there are two ways to look at competition: You can see it as a way to be better than someone else, or you can take the challenge as an opportunity to better yourself. The community of sex educators and sex positive people is the most supportive, generous and genuine group of people we’ve ever had the pleasure to meet. Knowing that, we know that most of you will be celebrating everyone on this list, no matter their rank. You’ve all raised the bar for sex blogging together. You all deserve a cape.
We are committed to seeking out and shining a spotlight on great sex ed regardless of this list and we do this in three ways:
- First, we've started a new feature where we profile a blogger each month. Any new interviews we do over the next six months are going to be with bloggers outside the top 25. We hope to spread the word on some of the newer, more unique, more niche bloggers by doing this. Contact us if you'd like to be featured!
- Second, the Superheroes list is just one input to our directory of sex blogs. We've made this sortable based on Twitter, Facebook, and a variety of other metrics including by topic areas like BDSM or sex toy reviews. The goal has always been to cast a wide net and highlight all sex blogs based on what they're best at.
- Third, if you are a blogger, we'd love to work with you. Kinkly did over 150,000 visits last month and so we'd love to find a way to help each other out. Just drop us a line.
Now, without further delay, here are this year’s Top 100 Sex Blogging Superheroes of 2014. If you don’t see your favorites, don’t forget to vote next year. It’s been a blast! (Oh, and a big, sparkly, thanks to LELO for being our sponsor this year!)
Erika Moen's blog won us - and our readers! - over with its unique, playful approach: comics! Oh, joy!
This one's new to our list (welcome!), and is all about BDSM, kink, gender explorations, and explicit queer sex in the form of essays, stories and personal journal entries. What more could you want?
This sharp-tongued writer is the cream of the crop when it comes to relentlessly honest sex toy reviews. When she loves a toy, you'll know it. We she hates it, you'll know it. Either way, enjoy the ride!
Yet another brand-spanking-new addition to the Superheroes list, Girl on the Net wooed us with her humor, insight and interaction with her readers. (A contest to draw what an orgasm feels like? How cool is that?!)
This "60-year-old sex goddess" is a sex guru for the over-50 set - and an inspiration to the younger sex positive crowd.
This site defines a "slut" as "a woman who is confident, classy, and empowered. She is in control of her sexuality and her choices." We love that. We also love that this blog is fun, funny, engaging and empowering.
This site gets points for pure sex geekery. Lilly reviews toys from every possible angle, providing both her subjective experience and an educated, objective look at each toy she reviews. She's also a fierce educator, and has been known as a leader in education on toxic sex toys.
The lovely @LadyCheeky is sex positive, body positive and a great sex educator. She's also honest, open and fun to read.
This redhead has show-stopping hair - and writing. Her honesty will make you laugh, cry and everything in between. We also give her props for her ongoing discussion about sex and depression.
This power blogger is a writer, a Mistress, a kink educator a speaker, a reviewer and the creative director of her own line of kinky sex toys. In other words, she's a force to be reckoned with (and her blog's a blast).
38. Queerie Bradshaw
Pssst! Check out last year's list here.
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