Double the Fun! 5 Hot Tips on Self Touch for Two

Masturbation. It's that thing you have to do if you want an orgasm but there's no one around to have sex with. It’s something that you do alone, but have no need for once there’s another person in the bed. It’s what gets you through the lean times until you can get back to "real" sex. Am I right?

Well, that's how many people feel about it, but it doesn't have to be that way.

In fact, masturbation is an awesome way to explore sensation, learn what works for your body and get to know your orgasms. And, if you do it with a partner, it’s a terrific way to experience pleasure together and show each other how your bodies work.

Also, it's totally, crazy hot.

If you're looking for something different to celebrate your Valentine's Day, consider some good 'ol fashion mutual masturbation. Although, oddly enough, Hallmark does not make any Valentine's Day cards that mention how you want to masturbate with your partner, and we can't fathom why they would not.

Here's how you can double your fun. (Also, check out a whole whack of awesome articles on self love here.)

Masturbation when you're not alone? Why, that's crazy talk!

Many of us learn about masturbation before we start engaging in partnered sexual activity, sometimes even as children. Then we find partners, start engaging sexually with them and, sometimes, masturbation gets relegated to second-class sexual citizen status.

The normalizing of partnered relationships and the tendency to value penetrative intercourse over all other forms of sex seem to feed this phenomenon. But what about the pleasure we experience from masturbation? Do we ever really forget about that? Of course not! But we might just push it aside for times when our partners aren’t around.

For many people, sex and masturbation are laid out very clearly as an either/or proposition, but what if we thought about bringing those two things together? What if instead of masturbating alone, we did it with a partner? Why not? There are so many potential benefits:

• Guaranteed Satisfaction: You both know what to do, so everyone gets touched the way they want to.
• It’s One Hell of a Show: You already think your partner is hot, so watching them please themselves is bound to be pretty hot too.
• Lots to Learn: You get to see exactly how your partner likes to be touched, which means that you can take that knowledge and use it to become a better lover.
• It's Oh-So-Safe: Total control over all bodily fluids = less to worry about.
• More Options: It’s always great to expand your sexual menu. Plus, for couples who are refraining from intercourse, this is a terrific alternative.

Mastering Mutual Masturbation

OK, so maybe now you’re thinking about making your sexual solo a duet but don’t know where to start. No problem! There are so many awesome ways to explore mutual masturbation. Here are a few ideas.

Keep It Mellow

Let’s be honest: Sometimes in partnered sex, things get tiring or uncomfortable but you stay the course for the sake of your partner’s impending orgasm. With mutual masturbation you can both get nice and comfortable and stay that way.

Raid the Toy Box

While we’re getting comfortable anyway, consider adding a toy (or two, or three!) This way you can take it easy, lie back and let your toy do some of the heavy lifting while you ease into the idea of having an audience.