10 Things You Don't Know About Self-Love
Given the right stimulation, our bodies know what to do. But discovering how to trigger powerful sexual response is often something we have to learn.
Sexual response is something that comes naturally. Given the right stimulation, our bodies know what to do. But discovering how to trigger powerful sexual response is often something we have to learn. Yes, we're talking about touching yourself. If you don't know your body and how it responds to touch, how can you expect your partner to learn how to please you? The answer is, you can't. So, in honor of Masturbation Month, here's a list of things you may not understand about sexual response from Clitical.com. The key to learning is to play!
Masturbation Isn't Just About You
In order to be the best lovers we can be, we need to first become students of ourselves. It's useless to know how to expertly please your partner if you never even learn to please yourself. For the best possible sex, you must learn both.
Pleasure Can Be Learned
What makes you tick, sexually? Learn to tune in to your sexYOUality. Keep expanding your horizons of sensual pleasure. Learn to become more easily and strongly orgasmic. You have to learn about your own sexual response, what makes you feel good, and what leads you to orgasm. How can your partner know what to do to bring you pleasure if you don't even know yourself?
You're In Charge
You are the teacher of your partner. It's not your partner's responsibility to somehow magically know what to do to please you. It's your responsibility to know how to please yourself and then to communicate this to your partner so that he or she can bring you the greatest pleasure possible. (Practice makes perfect! Find out how in The No.1 Secret to the Female Orgasm.)
Men Tend to Know More
The lack of knowledge about one's own sexual response seems to be a larger problem for women, on the whole, than for men. I suspect this is due to the fact that men have been manhandling and experimenting with their penises for as long as they knew they had one, and therefore probably know their bodies a little better than women do, on average. (But they probably don't know these: 10 Things You Don't Know About Penises.)
People Who Masturbate Are More Likely to Have Great Sex
I have read many online postings from ladies, both young and mature, where they are so frustrated because they don't orgasm through intercourse, manual sex, or oral sex. Some have never had an orgasm before in their life. When asked, most of these women admit to never having masturbated or engaged in self-exploration either. Many women have to teach themselves to have good orgasms. They have to experiment and learn about their bodies' sexual response. Once they know how to do it themselves, then they can teach their men what they need in order to experience the greatest pleasure. (Want some tips on how to touch a woman? Check out Stroke That: How to Rub Her the Right Way.)
Women Who Masturbate Are More Likely to Orgasm
Women who masturbate regularly are often more able to orgasm with a partner due to their familiarity of their bodies, their sexual response, and their orgasmic process.
Many People Ignore Sensual Pleasure
Many people, especially men, ignore the sensual pleasures of their whole body, preferring to focus on genital stimulation. But doing so robs you of so much potential intimacy and pleasure and can lead to sex that is focused solely on reaching orgasm, rather than reaching the full potential of everything that lovemaking has to offer along the way. Learn to tune into your body and really feel what it is experiencing. (Tantric sex techniques aim to do just that. Learn more about them in Tantric Exploration for Beginners.)
Everyone Has a Personal Pleasure Map. It's Up to Your to Find Yours
Explore your body alone, first. When you are experimenting alone, you are responsible only for your own pleasure, so you are more likely to be more relaxed, work at a pace that best suits you, and allow yourself the time to experiment with different sensations than you would with a partner. Once you define your own personal pleasure map, then you can relay this information to your partner and begin experimenting with them. Your partner can't do this for you as accurately as you can by yourself.