The best (and most fun) way to discover the body is to explore it, so test out some new techniques from time to time and see how your partner responds. You and your partner may be surprised to find all the hidden pleasure zones you didn't even know about.
Don't Forget Technique
Oral sex (great oral sex anyway) involves more than just using the tongue for stimulation. You should use the entire mouth: the lips, the teeth (only by request) and the entire tongue - not just the tip, but the ridge and surface as well.
Alternating between using different parts of the mouth in different combinations will always keep your partner guessing about what you’ve got up your sleeve next.
Want to level up your technique? Check out Beducated's online courses on cunnilingus and blowjobs and learn how to really rock your partner's world.
One of the simplest things you can do for better sex is communicate with your partner. We're not saying to stop in the middle of oral sex and ask your partner for a performance review. But it's always good to check in with your partner after the act and ask if there's anything you can do better.
If your partner is going down on you, make sure to tell them what you like and don't like as well. If they're missing the spot, tell them higher or lower, left or right, softer or harder, faster or slower. Assuming you partner cares about your pleasure and experience, they'll be more than happy to have some guidance!
Humans aren't mind readers. We have to talk about sex to get better at sex!
Do Keep It Neat and Clean
It's always a considerate measure to make sure that your genital area is clean before oral sex, especially if your partner or yourself are new to oral sex and find the act a bit intimidating.
By keeping it clean, we really just mean clean your folds and trim your pubes, people.
Genitals are never going to smell or taste like freshly baked cookies (and they shouldn't!). Vaginas smell and taste like vaginas, and penises smell and taste like penises.
Just take care to ensure your privates are somewhere you and your partner want to go!
You can accompany and highlight oral sex by using other methods of foreplay. Analingus, better known as "rimming" or "salad tossing" is a great pairing to oral sex.
You can also combine penetration using your fingers or sex toys to add to the stimulation. Toys can also give your mouth a bit of a break without taking away from the pleasure.
Choose the types of toys you love! Be creative.
The only limit to oral sex is your imagination. And, um, possibly your flexibility.