In this case, you'll want to consider shapes. Do you want to feel like you are being penetrated by a penis? Well then, something more realistic may be in order. Do you want to stimulate the G-spot or prostate? This is a great time for something curved. Are you using it on yourself or someone else? If you're looking for something to use on yourself, consider mechanics; if it isn't easy to use, it won't be fun - trust me! There’s nothing worse than getting this close but having to stop because your hand has cramped up into an unrecognizable claw.
Size: Go Big or Go...You Know, Not Big, Whatever Works
Women’s magazines, comedians, and the Washington Monument have all told us that when it comes to phalluses you want to go big or go home. Seriously? No. I have a gorgeous dildo that came highly recommended. I bought it to use by myself at those times I want a penis but, you know, still want to be able to watch "Dance Moms" immediately afterward. But I don’t use it because it’s a bit thick for me to use comfortably and, you know, "Dance Moms" is on. Sad face. Here’s how you can avoid that fate.
Let's Talk About Girth, Baby
The quick and dirty trick here for selecting a dildo with the right girth for you is to consider how many fingers the orifice you intend to use it in comfortably accommodates. Hold that number of fingers up to the largest insertable part (not the base) of any dildo and voilà! And seriously, be practical here. There is some anatomy involved.
The Long and Short of Length
Now, we talked length a bit earlier but here’s something to think about: If your dildo is too long you can always hold back, but if it’s too short there’s not much you can do. Everyone wants the Goldilocks of dildos (just right!), but if you aren't sure, err on the side of too long.
What's That Baby Made Of?
Be picky about your toy materials. It’s worth it. For comfy, realistic-feeling dildos that you can go to town on I love silicone! It’s smooth, a little squishy and can take some serious action. It’s also nonporous so you can clean it super easily.
For hand-held use, the are some amazing options in steel, glass, wood and also, you guessed it, silicone (it’s sometimes used as a coating on firmer toys). Again, these materials are non-porous, so keeping them clean is a breeze and the shape options are pretty awesome.
Know what you need it for, how big it should be and what you want it to feel like. That's all it takes to shop for this type of sex toy with confidence - and come up with something you'll enjoy. I know there’s a lot to think about, but it's really simple. Just stop, consider exactly what you want from your sex and accessorize accordingly? Now that's hot.
