Talk Dirty to Me: The Why and How of Hot Aural Sex
Want to have better sex? Speak up!
The more I talk to people about sex, the more I see that so many of them struggle with the very same things. High up on this list is sexual communication. Whether it's navigating consent, ensuring that they get what they need, or being a better partner, an awful lot of couples come up short because their approach falls somewhere between mind reading and charades. I’d like to offer a better way. My suggestion? Dirty talk.
Dirty talk is hardly groundbreaking stuff, but according to a 2011 poll by Adam & Eve, nearly one-third of people never talk dirty, while another 33 percent only do so sometimes. So I'm going to come right out and say it: If you and your partner aren't talking dirty, you could be missing out. Here are some key reasons why you should let the filth fly. I'll also provides some tips on how you shy types can get the conversation started.
Why Try Aural Sex?
It’s the most fun way to tackle a serious topic
If there's anything that scores points in the sack it's enthusiasm, but enthusiastic consent is a stumbling block for many people who feel that it ruins the moment. In reality, dirty talk is a great way to say you're in while still building arousal.
You know what’s hotter than a partner touching you in a new way? A partner telling you how much they want to touch you in that way, giving you the chance to say oh hell yes. Suddenly, sexual consent stops being a stumbling block on the way to the good stuff and becomes a stepping stone to making the stuff we do good. This is especially true when you're with a new partner or you're trying something new with an old partner.
Read: Yes! Why Consent Is Totally Sexy
It can make good sex even better
Speaking of making the stuff we do good, the best thing about dirty talk is that it gets people talking about sex, which is always a good thing. According to a 2012 study by researcher Elizabeth Babin at Cleveland Ohio University, chatty lovers tend to have greater sexual satisfaction because they communicate what they want.
Your partner isn't a mind reader; building communication into lovemaking can heat things up - and improve the chances that you'll get what you want.