I can’t tell you how excited I am to be writing Sex Stories We Love! And to be able to share duties with the incomparable MsQuote of A Good Woman’s Dirty Mind is fulfilling a big dream of mine. I spend a lot of time peeping into all corners of the sex community, poking around, finding stories that need to be told, shared and discussed. There are so many and I am happy to share for your consideration. Here are the best ones I dug up from the past week.

Is There Such a Thing as Responsible Sex Writing?

As a writer, I try not to publish stupid things. As an editor, I try not to let stupid things past my watch. Sometimes that means deleting my own work, sometimes that means rejecting the work of others. Sometimes it means admitting that an idea isn’t really that good after all.

Shop the huge range of Fleshlights for men at LovehoneySo, while I applaud the St. Louis Post-Dispatch for dropping syndicated columnist George Will after his atrocious piece that questioned sexual assault on campus statistics, I have to wonder how that offensive garbage made it into print in the first place. Will suggested that victims have achieved a "coveted status." You know, because trauma, pain and, now, even greater social stigma, are what all victims hope for.

George Will’s columns originate from the The Washington Post and they are standing behind the man. Editorial page editor Fred Hiatt thinks that the column was "well within the bounds of legitimate debate."

No debate from me; I’ll be avoiding The Washington Post until Will and Hiatt are gone.

New Thrills ... With Chills

The internet is abuzz about a new type of buzz! A strap-on dildo that responds to touch - oh my!

Dr. X Treme, inventor of the Ambrosia Vibe, is hard at work on this revolutionary new sex toy technology. Basically, what you do to the dildo will be felt by the wearer at its base. Suck it, stroke it, pull it - whatever motion you put on it will travel down the length of the unit via a 'vein' that then translates the motion (through math!) to the bullet vibe positioned against the wearer’s clit.

See folks, math does matter. And money math will help fund this project.

Talk to the Right People

A major complaint against governments and legislative bodies is that they don’t consider the people who will be affected by major decisions.

Take Bill AB1576 in California. That’s the highly controversial law that will require condoms be used in all porn films and on all porn sets in California. Much of the strongest reaction against it has come from porn performers themselves. You know, the people most directly affected by the bill.

To gauge the reaction on sets in California, intrepid performer and dazzling writer Stoya interviewed many prominent players in the porn industry, including Conner Habib, Courtney Trouble, and many more. The takeaway: creating safer porn-making conditions is fundamentally essential to bettering the working lives of porn performers.

They can’t just wrap this one up so easily.

Anal and Oral No Longer Penal ...

In a legal victory to be proud of, unmarried people in Alabama can engage in oral and anal sex! Good for Alabamans!

On the surface, it's easy to look at this as a backward state finally catching up with the times and doing away with an outdated law. But there’s more under the surface. People weren’t banned from oral and anal because of some antiquated sexual propriety. Nope, the law was on the books to criminalize queer sex and queer folks.

Gay folk can’t marry in Alabama and if gay folk can’t engage in penis + vagina connections then gay folk gotta go to jail.

Sigh. At least this nasty stroke of legislation is off the books.

... Except in Lots of Places

Unfortunately, in many places across the world, being anything but heterosexual is still an offense against the state. Some people are jailed. Some are killed.

Despite a growing understanding of these atrocities, despite the growing acceptance of queer people, despite the prominence of Pride movements, being killed for being gay still happens.

And even though Toronto is in the midst of throwing a huge World Pride party that could welcome 2 million people to the city, the Canadian government initially refused visas to Ugandan delegates to the Human Rights Conference for fear those people would seek refugee status while in Canada.

Eventually, some of the delegates were granted visas (some are waiting), but that is a small, almost token, victory. Queer people are still going to be hurt and killed - probably during World Pride - because of their sexuality and because countries like Canada are closing their borders and not pressuring repressive regimes.

Bloody shameful.

Advice About Putting a Ring In It

One of my favorite resources for sex education is Dr. Justin Lehmiller’s weekly Sex Question Friday. Dr. Lehmiller offers straightforward, easy-to-understand advice on a wide range of topics. He always includes a dazzling array of easily-digestible stats on sex that help readers normalize behaviors to their own.

This past week, he was asked about genital piercings and I was immediately intrigued. I’ve had a bunch of different places on me pierced, but never my junk. I have always been curious though! If you’ve ever considered a needle to your bits and pieces, take a read.